Hi all.
I'm new to this so you'll have to bare with me.
Last night I came home from work earlier than expected to find my 14 year old daughter naked and m*sturbating on the sofa to one of my 'adult' movies. I'm not sure which one of us was more embarrassed.
I said "ooh sorry" and just tried to find myself things to do in the kitchen. She must have bolted straight up to her room and has been up there since. As the adult I realise that I should probably go and talk to her, but would this just make things worse?
How has anybody else dealt with this situation? and would you have done it differently if you had the time again?
I just want her to know that I'm not mad with her, that it is normal and she doesnt have to be embarrassed about it, but also just want to tell her to be more careful. Is this what she needs to hear? or should i just let her come down in her own time and just never mention it? Any advice is welcome. Thanks.
2007-01-27 21:23:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tricky, if you don't mentioned it then it will hang between you for every. I'd be inclined to take her up a cup of tea (or whatever her favourite drink is. Knock on the door, go in, give her a hug and say, "Don't stress honey, it's perfectly normal, everybody does it." If you want to add a little humour you could recommend a good movie from you collection. Then never mention it again. The sooner she realises it's no big deal the sooner you can both forget it. It's one of those things after all.
2007-01-29 19:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just write her a note saying there's no problem etc etc, but that sort of activity is best done in the privacy of your own room. Put in the note that you'll say no more about it and as far as your concerned that is already forgotten.
Then wait at least 20 years for her to return to normal!!!
Best of luck
2007-01-30 07:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say "adult" movies, are you referring to porn??? Shame on you, you stupid, stupid man. If you are going to have that crap in the house, then why didn't you hide it in a place where she couldn't find it? (Why have it in the house anyway, you dummy). If anything, you should apologize at once for having it where she could find it and that the stuff in those types of movies are NOT what relationships are all about. I'd be more worried about the porn and it's affects on her than I would be about her "reaction" to it.
(You said any advice is welcome - - - and porn addiction is a sore spot with me)
2007-01-29 16:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by TPhi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor girl! If I were you I'd go and talk to her, explain that it's fine to do it just as long as it's in her room, imagine if you brought one of your friends home and they saw her too. I expect she's very embarrassed and doesn't know how to approach the subject with you, you seem very understanding.
2007-01-29 08:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by suckaslug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way i think ids for you to be totally open about it and talk to her and let her know it is OK to do that or get your wife girlfriend or a female friend to talk...she is a mini adult and sexually healthy..if you sweep it under the carpet things can only get worse for she may go and have actual sex with someone...i hope i am some help....god bless
2007-01-28 18:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Bob P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear! she's probably dying with embarrassment. she'll know that she needs to be more carefull because she wont want to be caught agian. just carry on as if nothing has happened and if she brings it up then talk to her. good luck.
2007-01-29 21:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by maddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋