ex says she fancies me, has got feelings for me plus like me. she says she just wants to be friends. I really really like her and I wana get back with her. what dp you guys think I shoud do?
2007-01-27 21:22:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why did you break up in the first place? will you continue to have the same problems? what have changed since the break-up? what was said during or after the break-up? how many partners have they been since the break-up? if you can answer all those with satisfying answers go for it but if not think twice and work out any bad feelings or issues before giving it another go.
2007-01-27 23:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're trying to win you ex back..awww..i understand...but not only is love a battlefield, but it is a minefield when you are trying to win back the heart of your ex.
Here are three very destructive mines you want to avoid when you are tip toeing on the battlefield of love.
Mine #1: Making contact too soon after the break up. This mine will "blow" your chances faster than any other mines. It seems counter intuitive, but you want to wait at least 30 to 60 days before you make any kind of contact with your ex. So, what should you do while you are waiting?
The answer is be prepared for mine #2.
Mine #2: Trying to change your ex partner rather than trying to change yourself. Most people try getting back together with an ex by pleading, begging and professing their undying love. This rarely works! In fact, it makes you seem very unattractive.
What you want to do is work on yourself. Come to the realization and understanding that you may desire your lover back. But, your world will not come to abrupt halt without them.
This is a huge difference. You need to be confident, upbeat and and somewhat aloof. This is incredibly more seductive and attractive and will get you across the battlefield of love in one piece.
Mine #3 The first contact. Okay, so you have waited a month or so, you have realized that you can go on without your ex, at the same time you still "desire" them back.
What you need to do now is make first contact. Don't ask her out to dinner and don't ask him over to the house. Make a very non chalant and non threatening offer such as a simple cup of coffee.
You want them to see the "new" you and do not talk about your past relationship problems and don't play the blame game. Just talk and have as much fun as possible. Now, if it looks like it is going to progress, you still want to cut off the date...with them wanting more.
If you can avoid tripping and hearing the "click" of these three mines you will have avoided many of the mistakes that men and women make after a break up where one person wants to get back together.
Remember that you want to attract your ex back into your life. Break ups are hard, but pleading and begging does not work. You want to get into a place of strength. This goes for men and women going through a break up. The opposite sex is never attracted to depressed and mopey partners that act like they will not have a future without the other.
2007-01-28 08:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give her some time, It does depend on why you broke up in the 1st place and if those reasons have changed. I'm going through a similar thing myself. If its meant to be and you both feel the same way it will happen.
2007-01-28 07:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I'm going through with now get back to her and dont let her go again, there might not be another girl inda world like her. Things going to be different now. If u she loves u and u love her go for it, give it another best shot.
2007-01-28 05:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Zexyana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can, but this time you have to take your time. Why not be friends with your ex first.
2007-01-28 05:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by mared 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got to respect her decision you cannot make somebody love you just stay friends you never know she may feel different in a few months time
2007-01-28 05:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by nicolefrenzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um stay mates see how u feel later but never stay mates with u ex wont work
2007-01-28 14:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all il say is good luck but get ready for the heartbreak. start trying to get over her now
2007-01-28 20:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by scott g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel but be prepared for a knock back.
2007-01-28 08:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by charlotte e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about her, move on. never ever let a woman be your friend it wont work.
2007-01-28 06:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋