if we defined the terms. Can a person be "in love" with a friend if there is no relationship? Or is that only called "interested"?
2007-01-27 20:18:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has been over to my house twice to visit. I am a musician and he loves my music and brags to everyone about me. I have seen what he is like at my house and it is the same as at work.
2007-01-27 20:27:04 · update #1
Okay..."interested" may be equated to as infatuation so let's clarify the differences between the two..
*Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another.
*Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.
*Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and places about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
*Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence even when he/she is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him/her nearer, but near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait.
*Infatuation says, "We must get married right away! I can't risk losing you!"
*Love says, "Be patient. Do not panic. Plan your future with confidence."
*Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you can admit it is difficult to be in one another's company unless you are sure it will end-- in intimacy.
*Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
*Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating. Sometimes you check.
*Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. Your beloved feels that also and makes them even more trustworthy.
*Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.
*Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person.
I hope this has helped yOu..
2007-01-27 21:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gator! You have the beginning of something quite wonderful Take your time. Don't rush the Emotions. Let the Friendship become more important. Then, the Love of Emotions, will make the relationship, even better. And on more solid ground. Friends don't hurt their Friends. Once the Friendship is established. You have a go ahead to become in Love. Luck!
2007-01-28 04:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you're "in love" with him or only "interested" in him, either way there is the potential for a relationship to unfold here. Establish a relationship and let whatever emotions develop come naturally. If you were "in love" with him...you would know it without having to ask anyone. You would know it as surely as if you were hit over the head with a Louisville Slugger baseball bat.
2007-01-28 04:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Edwardo Corrochio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm
My friend was talking about something like this the other day... its the same as saying to someone - i love you - im just not IN love with you... Maybe you should go out with this guy and see what happens then! If your only seeing him at work then your probably not seeing the "real" him... i know when im at work im a totally different person to when im out with my friends... Just ask him to a movie or coffee or even just have lunch with him one day and see what happens!
2007-01-28 04:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consciously and judiciously ponder over the point sincerely as to why and how your are interested in him. You'll get the answer!
2007-01-28 04:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called lust and you want what you can't have....
2007-01-28 04:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋