What's your opinion about hurting your child when she/he did something wrong?

Answer 1

I think most adults remember a time that they did something stupid for the first and last time because of the punishment that resulted. I don't think it is always the answer, but sometimes it is.

Answer 2

First of all, it would be important to understand what you mean by "hurting." A quick spanking on the fanny with a flat hand to a young child is acceptable. Did you know that anything else is AGAINST THE LAW? Any punishment that leaves marks can be reported to the authorities.

It is important to teach your child to behave, but using "pain" just makes the child afraid and not willing to "learn" at all. Look for parenting classes at local mental health centers to offer you ideas for different "consequences" geared to the child's age. You don't have to resort to "hurting" your child in order to help your child.

Good luck!

Answer 3

This question is such a hard one to answer. Everyone is an expert! In my opinion, it depends how you define "hurting". My children have clear boundaries at home. The rules don't change - unless they are ill then of course as with anything you have to allow for behaviour issues I whinge and get grumpy when I'm sick too! Anyway, under normal situations if my girls decided that they will hit, punch, kick or etc (and they rarely do now) then they get a time out. This allows me to calm down too and allow them to dwell on why they are there. They stay in time out one minute per year of age as that is apparently the recommended time for children (i did heaps of research). I think with smacking its a hypocritical statement to say "stop hitting your sister" as i give a smack to them.....Just my opinion. I don't believe in mamby pamby stuff like chatting to your almost three year old about the psychological impact of violence to your siblings....its crap and they dont care. The hitting part is cause they cant express their full emotions. Understand where the behaviour comes from and address it but age appropriate language is best.

Answer 4

I think it will be difficult at first, but children NEED disipline! You are their authority figure so don't be afraid to take authority...there is a line between disipline and abuse though...
And yes talking to them is good too...but sometimes a different approach is needed. How many times have you saw a child acting out in a store and the mother is having to talk to them over and over about it, the mother is pleading to the "child" for them to act correct and appears as if she can't get a handle on her child because SHE CAN'T. Don't let the child run you, like I said you take authority. Have you ever saw a child act one way with their mother and a different way with their father? I have b/c even though they are kids, children are smart and they know who will and who won't allow certain behavior.

Answer 5

I used to get whoopens all the time from my dad when I was young. He always knew just how hard to hit me to make it sting, and to make me cry, but I must say that he never abused me in any way. I always hated to get spanked but once the pain was over, that was about it.

If you are talking about an older child, taking something away is a lot more punishment than a spanking. Maybe a cell phone, video games, computer..something of that nature.

Answer 6

No problem requires violence to right it for both of u. Teach your child to communicate effectively and work through the problems together. It is hard in the moment and in the moment u might go too far. I work with a classroom of 15-20 troubled teens each day and have only needed to solve a problem through physical force once in my career. I was trained in restraints and I let them go once they were in control of themselves. Teach them to be respectful. A tap with your own child might be ok but once they are an age they can remember what u did, it is imprinted on who they are in the future.

Answer 7

I don't think it's "wrong" - but I think there are better ways to deal with a child's behavior problems. That should be a last resort. I was spanked as a child - with plastic tracks that were used for the little toy cars that used to be popular. I remember being scared of getting spanked - but I don't remember it really being a deterrent.

Answer 8

depends on your definition of "hurting". An open-handed smack to the butt, legs and arms that leaves no bruises/markings as a discipline thing, ok (sometimes cannot reason with kids, too young to comprehend what you mean, can't reason with a toddler etc and that is only option), but anything more is a bit much if you ask me

Answer 9

Never physically hurt your children or mentally. You did not put their ages unfortunately. But talking to them so they will understand or a time out or a small punishment and telling them why seems a better answer.

Answer 10

I don't go for child abuse. Talking and teaching the child at an early stage to be discipline is better. They are prone to commit mistakes anyway, so be patient with them.