What would you do over if you could?
My mother's memorial is Wed. She died unexpectedly last night.
2007-01-27 19:58:20 · 8 answers · asked by lindakflowers 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am so appreciative of your answers. My tears come even when I'm not crying. I'm grieving for the unspeakable loss of a mother who was also my best friend.
2007-01-27 21:20:16 · update #1
It was really hard to pick a Best Answer as you sent so many. Therefore, I can only thank you for taking the time to answer and hope you will understand why your answer was not chosen. There was only 1 ten points.
2007-01-29 14:30:06 · update #2
First off, coming here to ask questions like this is great. The only negative is that you have to deal with the people that only come here to be hateful and miserable to others.
My last family funeral experience was absolutely horrible for me. I was SO upset. However, I can't say that I would do anything different. My only advise for you also connects with the first paragraph:
Talk to anyone and everyone who is willing to listen; write; share your feelings; cry; mourn; etc. Accept the grieving process! There is nothing weak about it or anything to be ashamed of.
I was lucky enough to have many close friends around me that were willing to listen to my babble and heartbreak, which got me through the situation.
Stay Up!
2007-01-27 20:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Cing 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss. There's really nothing you can do over if you could. You have to deal & move on, live your life & know that your mother will always be with you in your heart. At her funeral, you should read out something, maybe a special speech or poem about your memories with her because that's all you will have now....is memories. When my mom passed away 10 years ago, it was hard to deal & accept, but you gotta do what you gotta do to move on with your life. Is your father still alive? if so, you should cherish all the good times with him, spend more time with him because you don't know when he's going to go too. Losing a parent is hard, especially a Mom, because my mom did everything for me, now that she's not here, i have to do everything for myself, i'm older & wiser now. I always wonder if i make her proud, if i had a chance to ask her anything, it would be that, in hopes that she will say "every day" as an answer to my question. Good luck & may god be with you & your family.
2007-01-28 04:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My condolences to you and your family. I am a Family Services Counselor at a cemetery/funeral home and everyone deals with the loss of a loved one differently. first off I applaud you for reaching out. cing gives the best advise when he says Talk to anyone and everyone who is willing to listen; write; share your feelings; cry; mourn; etc. Accept the grieving process! There is nothing weak about it or anything to be ashamed of.. most people I assist with their arrangements don't show enough emotion. the most raw and powerful emotion is that of the sudden loss of someone you love. I hope your funeral experience is a moving and memorable one. and I hope you and Your family were treated with care and respect while making those very difficult decisions in the planning of your moms funeral on the worst day of your life. If you have any questions or concerns about the funeral process or the final disposition of your mom please post again I would be happy to assist you in anyway I can. MOST IMPORTANTLY, LAUGH, CRY, REMEMBER
2007-01-28 05:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by crisafisteel86 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So very sorry to hear your loss! My heart goes out to you! My mother died when I was 10 and when I went to the casket to say my final good-bye, I had been chewing at my hang-nails and one had started to bleed and I put my hands up to pray on the casket and got blood on it!!! I was only 10 I had no clue what to do or anything-but my family let me know it wasn't a big deal or anything! Whew! That was a relief!!I am in my late 40's now and the way I look at that situation is a part of me went with her!!!
2007-01-28 09:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by buffster06 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly i am sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent is awful and something that is extremely confronting and personal. Nothing i can say to you about my fathers funeral could assist you as this is when you need to turn to your family and your mothers wishes for the answers.
2007-01-28 04:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by kelstar 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss... but there is really no way to even begin to tell you about experiences, each one is different, depending on how close you were to the deceased...
2007-01-28 04:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by emtb9 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Terrible, not the funeral, my dad dying. Your mum died and you ask yahoo for answers? Silly I think.
2007-01-28 04:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Plenty of tears.
Followed by plenty of beers.
2007-01-28 09:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by DaMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋