today, i took my 5 month baby boy to taco bell. as i was enjoying my meal, my son, Ryan, let out a big fart. the lady sitting at the next table looked at me and said, "excuse you, but someone's trying to eat here!!" in a really loud voice.
i told her it was my son, who had farted and she replied, "whatever" in a really stuck up tone, and made a disgusting face at me. i was soo humiliated, because this lady was so loud, that all the people near us knew what was going on.
myy husband says im making a big deal about this. am i overreacting? if so, how should i handle this situation?
2007-01-27 19:14:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This situation is over and is probably not going to happen again anytime soon.
Just remember you don't have to impress a stranger. You know yourself and if you are doing the best you can to be considerate, it isn't worth thinking about even a few hours later.
This is something you will find hysterical very soon, and as you tell on your kids later in their lives.
If you wanted to smooth it over, instead of blaming the baby you could have apologized on his behalf, and then get up and take the baby to the bathroom to see if he pooped...even if you knew he didn't etc. and just laugh it off with the onlookers who were not offended.
2007-01-27 20:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't worry about it too much either, babies are going to fart and cry and burp sometimes or even throw up. Many people think that's cute, loads just take it as a fact of life and don't care either way, and a few are going to be annoyed when it happens. However it *is* a fact of life and you're not going to prevent it unless you keep your baby at home all the time. Just forget about it... I'm one of those who isn't much into young children but unlike this lady I realise that it's just something babies do and I wouldn't dream of commenting on it, or suggest that you couldn't eat in a restaurant with a baby or something stupid like that... I might've been momentarily annoyed if a kid made a really gross sound, but I'd have shrugged it off as soon as I'd seen it came from a child so young, and would long have forgotten it by the time I'd come home... this lady apparently can't, but I suggest you do! Don't think of it any more, if somehow you do have similar schedules and end up in that restaurant at the same time again take a table away from her but it's unlikely you'll ever run into her again unless you live in a very small town!
2007-01-28 06:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is right. Why were you Humiliated? You have no real control over smells from someone else. You just go ahead and be polite and apologize for the kid until he is old enough to apologize for himself. and when the rude people do the tone and face thing afterward then ignore them. When your kid is old enough to talk and the rude people do the tone and face thing then you turn to your kid and say something very loudly like That lady is being very rude after your nice apology But that is OK son because your manners in Public are better than Hers but really its better to just ignore rude people like Her.
2007-01-28 06:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Syberian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....hopefully you are no longer AT taco bell. Considering that, I would say the situation is already handled.
There are always going to be people who are mean or rude, I find it most useful to employ polite but over sarcasm. That seems to quickly hush the offending party most of the time. Also, even if they are not silenced they are made out as the foolish/rude party when they continue snipping at you.
2007-01-28 04:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by shatterbrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like some one at TACO BELL has never heard a fart before...right!
Don't worry. Anyone with kids understands. In the future I am sure YOU'LL be very sympathetic when it happens to another mom around you!
And, according to Miss Manners, the appropriate response to a fart in a public place is no response at all, so SHE was in the wrong, not you.
2007-01-28 06:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by Chickgeek 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not overreacting. who in their right mind calls out a stranger on a normal bodily function. it's not like anyone farts in public on purpose, especially in a restaurant (well, most people). She was being presumptuous and rude, and SHE'S the one that overreacted. I wouldn't have been embarrassed in this situation though, your child can't control his gas yet and no SANE person should expect him to, no SANE person would actually accuse you of blaming a fart on your son that wasn't. That's f*cking ridiculous. I would've turned to her and told her that my son was just trying to cover up the smell of her hair
2007-01-28 11:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by ~ Mi$fitPrin¢ess ~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get up and fart on her face, then she'd have a perfectly good reason to act like she did...
2007-01-28 10:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Liz S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tel the lady that she is being rude and if she doesn't like it leave.
2007-01-28 04:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by chrissy b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her your sorry and ignore her , she sounds like a sourpuss!!!
2007-01-29 10:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋