I am married, 43 years old and I had an affair with a woman 28 years old about a year ago. It didn't last very long, though. We knew it wouldn't work out since I am married and she had a boyfriend. I love her... and she confessed to me that she loved me too. We ended it, but we've always stayed in touch since. We had a couple of 'encounters' the past year, but maintained our status as 'friends' nevertheless. We still talk almost everyday and see each other for lunch or dinner every now and then. Nothing has happened physically between us since July of last year. Now here is my situation: We've had a couple of fights since July and I offered to stay away from her both times but she wouldn't let me go. She claims both times that she didn't want that to happen. I asked if she still loved me and answered NO. Why wouldn't she let me go? Every time I ask her what am I supposed to do, she always replies, "I cannot tell you what to do". Is she just waiting for me to divorce my wife?
2007-01-27 18:50:04 · 7 answers · asked by John Quest 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not proud of this, OK. My wife and I hadn't been getting along for several years before this happened. It's not an excuse but I got caught when I really needed someone.
2007-01-27 19:09:10 · update #1
I think you have a bigger problem. You cheated on your wife! And if you do not love her then divorce her. She is the woman you should be worrying about not your little slut.
2007-01-27 18:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by michakitty87 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think I even have to say that you shouldn't be having an affair in the first place... but to answer some of your question, i think she tells you that she doesn't love you because you ARE married still and she probably doesn't want or think you deserve to know that until you do leave your wife, which is obviously what she's waiting for. ok.
2007-01-28 02:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG
you need to make a decision wether you want to be with her or your wife - its REALLY lame that you cheated on your wife - but saying that if this other girl really likes you then you are torturing her as well.. YOUR the one that needs to make the decision!! to stay or to go!! because you leave it any longer and you will end up hurting everyone!!!
2007-01-28 02:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my God that's a too bad thing...i wanna know something,why didn't u think of your wife...the woman who will be always there for you.....and who really loves you..and do everything to satisfy you.....
you've been cheating on your wife for a year...that's too bad..and you leave your wife and go out to take lunch with the other girl who doesn't even love you....it's all your fault from the beginnig...
go and talk to your wife..and you gotta leave this girl and don't talk to her again........ignore her...that's it
2007-01-28 03:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by no care for all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is waiting for you to leave your wife...and if you cheat on your wife, you must not love her....so leave the wife...
then if you do, maybe your relationship will work out. but i hope the other women remembers that once a cheater always a cheater...
2007-01-28 02:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no i think she is waiting for you NOT to call, not to be there at the scheduled dinner, she wants to end it to but she wants you to dump her, give her the relief that she did nothing wrong,
2007-01-28 02:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by brandonjb2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
off course she is!!
come on say it!
what the hell you are waiting for?
2007-01-28 03:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jill-mommy of a cute lil fellow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋