long story short,i had this best friend of mine for about 9 years,we became friends in the 6th grade,and ended the friendship as a sophmore in college,like 1 week ago.anyway 9th grade i spilled my guts, told her how i felt about her,i was sincere,i really loved her. but she said no,in a nice way.she jumped from boyfriend to bf, one jerk after another, they hit her, emotionally abandoned her, and only hurt her.i loved her so much and wanted her to be my world. i was her best friend so i got to bring her roses,and take her to movies and dinner,and spend time with her without having to make up excuses as to why.but she could never see how much i wanted her..she broke my heart,it hurt alot and it still does.i just wanted a chance to make her happy,because i can tell it's not a feeling she's used to.i brought up the idea occasionaly as the friendship went on.but still,no.i think mentally,i'm emotionally bankrupt,like i just give up,i believe i wasn't meant to be happy,i did my best & failed
2007-01-27 18:41:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey. u sound like the perfect boy friend to me and beats me y she's stupid enough to turn u down, hell, i wouldn't.
but really, u sound like a great guy but u have a few options now;
A. u might just have to get used to the ides that u r stuck in the Friend zone forever, and have to get used to the idea that you'll be the one watching from far while she marries another man and has his children (sorry for being so graphic, i can only imagine how painful that sounds)
B. u fake yourself having a new girl friend and she might get jealous and might actually run after u for a change (but keep in mind that hole time that she still might be blind to all the true love in the world).
C. go out and meet new ppl. u might actually find a real girl friend who will appreciate your love so much and will love you back in the way you deserve and then you will still have feelings for your old friend but they will be friendship feelings.
good luck and i hope you get all the love in the world that you deserve.
2007-01-27 19:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No honey, you didn't fail. You just learned a tough lesson in life, which so many of us have experienced. Too bad, you spent so many of your young years concentrating on one person. But, its time to look ahead and not behind. Obviously, you put a lot of emotional effort into what became a broken record. Thank God, however, because your eyes are finally open and you now see things more clearly. It sounds like you felt sorry for her and became "co-dependent" by feeling you had to always be there for her, and therefore she should love you in return. Once you find somebody else and fall in love with her, you'll forget the pain you're currently feeling.
2007-01-27 19:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by IGOTDAGIFT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot rescue a person who keeps herself bound to her misery. It hurts, because you love her, but there's not a thing you can do beyond what you're already doing.
When you took her out to movies and dinner, she may very well have seen how much you wanted her. Depressed people are actually better at understanding other peoples' emotions than the rest of us. She just didn't return quite the same feelings. Or perhaps she didn't want to get closer to you because she feels too broken inside.
Go the hard route, and be her friend. But try to untangle your sense of compassion from your desire for her.
2007-01-27 18:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude you're both still young. At this age women merely follow their instincts, go for all the hot guys only to get dumped by them. They do not understand what is good for them, who cares about them, who is a good person etc. These things they will start realizing when they are into their 30s, after having been through all the abuse from the hot guys. She will probably come back to you after she is done with all of them & then come begging to you asking to be her bf (when she is 30-ish!!!). I'm not asking you to wait that long You look like a good guy, just find a woman who thinks you're hot, or an older woman who thinks you are a good guy.
You can't entirely blame women for that, because we men ourselves are also like that.
2007-01-27 18:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a nice person,you tried your best.God bless you.
2007-01-27 18:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by ANU U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
walk away the ***** is crazy
2007-01-27 18:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by angie w 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋