ok so I fell in love with my high school sweetheart in 9th grade and we went out for a year and a half then I had to move 3000 miles away so we broke up because we said the distance was to far but we have always kept touch and always feel like we should be together. I'm 20 now and have a boyfriend but he doesn't want kids or marriage or anything I want but I really care about him but at the same time I will always love my highschool sweetheart my highschool sweetheart told me he couldn't and still can't see him self marrying anyone but me and I feel the same should I move back and start from where we left off or should I just pretent nothing is there I don't know if this is how everyone feels he was my first love but I can't get over him and its been 4 years we've been apart but we talk at least every 3 days and he wants me home so we can be together and have a family what do I do???? is this just how I will always feel about my first love or is this what forever feels like????
2007-01-27 18:41:22 · 18 answers · asked by pink_questions 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the problem is my dad moved me 3000 miles to go to a better college and I still have like 2-4 years ahead of me if I move back my sweetheart he will be way upset along with my sister and step mom but I really think my sweetheart is forever
2007-01-27 19:31:04 · update #1
here is the other problem I live with my boyfriend now ad we fight but about stupid **** and he always referrs back to me loving my ex how do I let him down I'm so scared that if I don't find out about my sweetheart I will never get rid of this feeling because we wanted a family together he wanted to propose to me I love both of them how do I decide
2007-01-28 06:58:35 · update #2
FOLLOW YOUR HEART. you know that's what you want...so go and do it. be with the person that you truly love...and don't let the distance stop you. i truly think that you should move back to him..because that's better than settling for anything less.
2007-01-27 18:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly feel you should move out of your "now" boyfriends home and either move to a dorm or back home or an apartment with some friends. Could your lost love come to see you? I was married very young, 17 yrs, and was married for 28 years. We are divorced and that happened because we truly grew apart even though we raised 4 children. Once the kids were grown, we both found we had nothing in common anymore. Please go out on your own, maintain both relationships if you want, but not as boyfriends, and concentrate on you and your school and friends. Believe me, once you get into the real world, many men will be attracted to you and you will have many decisions to make. If your first love can visit with you maybe yearly and you both are able to remain in touch for the next 3 years, you might really be made for each other.
2007-02-04 13:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. sounds like a dream story.
if i were u i would probably try and spend a lot of time with your true love, i would move back for a while with an opened mind that it might not work out (just in the back of your mind), and i'll tell u y; it's easy to love someone when there r no responsabilyties involved. see, right now u love each other from far. u speak, download you hearts and just love. once you r together there is a lot more room for fights and just being short with each other. that how married couples that were once sooooo in love end up in devorce.
but u should really give it a try cuz it will haunt u forever - the real forever, if u don't and then even if u do find mister perefect you might end up damaging your relationship cuz of the love u once had, and y does he not love me and want me like my 'first love'? etc.
good luck on your decision and i do hope it works out for u.
2007-01-27 19:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont pretend that it isn't there. It sounds like you two need to try to make it work. And if after you do try, if for some reason down the road, you break up based on the relationship not working, then you will be able to get over each other and move on. But as things stand, you will probably never get over him unless you try again, at least. Good luck. I hope you both make it happen.
2007-01-27 18:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only went out a yr1/2.that is not much. The guy u r with it don't sound good how can that ever work out?? You moved so far away for this college? what about the guy back home?What does he do with his life?? At 20 yrs. old you need to focus on education and career!
2007-02-04 13:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think your really in love with your current boyfriend if you argue so much I would go home if I were you and be with who I love your dad maybe mad but they will always be your family. I am still in love with my first love and its been 25 years I moved away years ago and my parents ran into him he inquired about me and let me tell you I will be going to visit my parents soon and looking him up. Wishing you the best
2007-02-04 18:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go home Go home Go Home ~ You will never be happy with the thought in the back of your head "what could of happened if I did go back" Take the risk and see if there is still anything between the two of you when you are in front of each other face to face.
2007-01-27 18:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by teresawol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend now doesn't want any kids or marriage or anything and you do that is a problem. maybe you should go to the guy you have always loved I'm sure he will appreciate you more.
2007-01-27 18:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 20 and in charge of your life. Go back to the old love and see what transpires. If it doesn't work, at least it will be resolved. And if it does work, you have happily ever after!!
2007-02-04 18:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by busybody12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...theres no point staying with your current boyfriend if he doesnt want a family...continue your studies...life will sort itself out...if youre old boyfriend is still around so be it...marry him,but dont go doing something that maybe one day you might regret ..like leaving school....can he come to you?.....i married my first love,so dont think it cant or shouldnt happen...good luck!
2007-02-04 16:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by sandra k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋