i've decided not to talk with him again..and ignore him...and i started doing this ..but the prob is that i need him so much.and i keep asking myself if he remembers me or am i very easy to forget?i miss him so much..everything around me reminds me of him....but i can't go back and talk to him!!!what can i do?
2007-01-27 18:30:25 · 15 answers · asked by no care for all 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just keep yourself busy and start having fun. be yourself and think only about yourself. good luck
2007-01-27 18:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, stay away and have no contact with this guy whatsoever! That is the only way. And you will see, that in time, each day that goes by will start being easier and easier. I went through the same thing. The only way I finally got over him is when I wouldn't allow myself to see him or talk to him at all. Finally, i noticed that the days got easier and easier. Then, soon, I was able to really start focusing on me. Things got so much better and I ended up so much happier.
When you think you "need" him. That is a red flag that you are in serious need of strengthening yourself. And you can only do this when you are not in a relationship. You need to get to the point where you love your time alone and really like yourself. Then you will find that a relationship will enhance your life, not take it over.
Good luck...
2007-01-27 18:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to think all this since you just broke up with him. Its very hard to ignore the person you love but try to keep yourself occupied with something else which does not remind you of him . Hang out with friends, family, shopping, movie etc. I am sure you might have thought or called him too just asking how he is doing but you have to stop doing that. The best way to forget him is to like someone else. that is the only way you can forget him.
2007-01-27 18:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by applecity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.
My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....
1.) throw away all his mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of him.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things he did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with him.
7.) Avoid seeing him.
8.)Avoid the places he frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve him.
Remember this:
GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE.
2007-01-27 22:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really difficult to let go of someone that you love, but time really does heal. The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy. Spend time with your friends and your family. Concentrate more on school or you career (or both). The pain will decrease as time goes by and you will find someone to love and who will love you back. Good luck!
2007-01-27 18:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel i liked this guy for 3 years then he stopped liking me in 7th grade and I still ♥ him but i'm trying to get over him...i guess just having other guy friends helps a little...i think time is the only real therapy...
2007-01-27 19:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart we all go through it when we lose some one we care bout. dont let your self suffer for someone.. no is worth the pain. just keep busy dont be screared to talk to other men .. if he did you wrong dont go back.. we men dont change so stay strong sunshine and remember men come in bulk so look through and fine the right one. if you need more help or just want some one to talk to to keep you mind off him you have a friend in me.. ok
2007-01-27 18:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Boogie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't go to him than thinking of him is very silly and thinking of someone who has no interest in him is worthless. you didn't mention your age but i think you are below 18 because at this age people are very romantic and emotional. I advise you to forget him and don't suppress yourself more than this. by making friendship with others and being with them, things can be changed easily and remember thought becomes things
2007-01-27 18:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by un_1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the EXACT same thing happened to me! its a long story, but i ended up not talking to him anymore. i would walk past him in the halls, but look away. deep inside i know that i wanted him, but knew it just wouldnt work. he wouldnt listen to what i had to say and kept putting words in my mouth. i finally realized that there are other things in life to make you happy. for example: your friends. i dont know youre age, but maybe you could go out and meet some new people. get your mind off of it. youll get over it. i promise. it will just take time. it took me about 2 years. i realized i was over him when i walked past him and felt nothing. youll get over him. with time youll figure out that theres someone else who will make you even happier. good luck. ♥♥♥
2007-01-27 18:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this time you really have to go the hard-headed way.See,your heart wants him,so why don't you just follow your heart.Just try once.Since you miss him so much.Get close to him or be with him.Tell him your feelings.Don't let the chance slip away from your hands.
2007-01-27 18:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by Stefan Kho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not together there's probably a reason for it. Maybe the two of you arn't ment to be together. Possibly God has a far greater purpose for you and he's not part of it. You don"t NEED him you just WANT him. Love and be good to yourself for a while.
2007-01-27 18:45:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋