Im a virgin, never had a boyfriend, however, he's been around the block and back a few times. What are some little things I could pick up on or watch out for to see what he is REALLY about. Im not completely imbecilic, I know nothing serious could/will evolve from such a thing, I just need few old wise men and some advice. Thank you.
2007-01-27 18:22:16 · 21 answers · asked by cadette 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Age does not matter, but when your a virgin. I would wonder about his intentions. Does he really care for you or does he just want to steal your innocense as a notch for his belt.
2007-01-27 18:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In general, age doesn't matter. There is going to be a big difference in maturity between the two of you though.
If he is serious about you, he will go out of his way to show you that he cares about you. On the other hand, 35 going out with a 20 year old could just be about a conquest (especially if he knows your a virgin). I would advice you wait and don't let him pressure you into having sex. Your virginity is your, until you give it to someone. Make sure it's someone who truly deserves being shown that you love them.
2007-01-27 18:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I cover the OLD part as for the wise you can decide for yourself. If you dont see anything coming from this relationship why are you so set on losing your virginity to him? In my own opinion you should wait untill marriage or if not at least untill you find a man you see a future with. I understand your attraction to an experienced man but consider what you are giving away so freely when a man who you can truly love is wondering around somewhere. If you do it you will regret it because there is no future. Good Luck!
2007-01-27 18:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because of your... age no way don't do it!!!! Hes way more mature than u!!!! U wouldn't have to ask if u were ready . Wait 4 marriage ok U won't be sorry! Im not old by the way & I look Just as good as someone in thier late 20s early 30s Weight is great too .. The maturity level wd b good if u were in late 20sw him 35
2007-01-27 18:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you "know nothing serious could/will evolve from such a thing" why are you worried about how to "please" him? Honestly, putting sex before the development of a relationship is so backwards. So unless you're willing to become a sex-toy for an older and more experienced man, run away fast.
2007-01-27 18:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age is not the problem here. Just because he is older, that doesn't mean he rocks in the sack. The best sex I ever had was a 24 yr old and I am MUCH older than that. I wouldn't put out to someone for the first time that I didn't feel "comfortable with" outside the bedroom. Having feelings for him is important. You will always remember your first time.
2007-01-27 18:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl what up with you? Got a healthy relationship with daddy? Think of yourself as someone special? It sounds like the answer could be no......He is way more experienced in life and that is not fair to you......you can get hooked up with this older experienced gentleman, but in the long run you will build resetment cause all he has under his belt and how you only know him under your belt....whatever.....I am just saying been there done that and all the gals i know that have been there done that too, have all not worked out with older dudes.....unless there was money invovled but then too it wasnt real.......be true to yourself and love yourself.....the fact that he is 35 and available should say enough, HELLO!
2007-01-27 18:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pleasing the guy is not a problem. Believe me, if you loose your valuable virginity to him, you're gonna be a great trophy! You should worry about you becoming a better person with every relation, instead of thinking of pleasing or being pleased. When a man and a woman really love each other, pleasing each other is a sweet, effortless consequence.
2007-01-27 18:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by debeyhaber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pursue this relationship you need to be prepared for a controlling relationship. This guy may have some self-esteem problems and feels that he can manipulate you to do whatever he wants. Be careful. This could be very dangerous!
2007-01-27 18:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave - 15 years age gap, what will you do with that?
at 20 you should be having fun with your peers.
What can you possibly have in common?
2007-01-27 18:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by Venom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋