ya well, i like this guy and so does my best friend! and the guy we like is my best guy freind! (lets just say bob.) and hes asked mee out before so i know is interested. and dont like a super lot, but, i think it will be a whole lot of funn to be with him!!!!! ok so let me get to the point, shoud i go out with him, and make my best friend mad, or go out with bob and see if our friendship cound go farther????
2007-01-27 18:17:55 · 17 answers · asked by bria<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Brea,
It seems to me that you're thinking of gambling away something that you are sure of, and replace it with something that you are not sure of.
Your best friend is there for you, cares for you, and surely you don't want to hurt her, or you would not be so concerned about it, right?
This guy friend, "Bob" is a friend, and you're sure of that.
You don't know if a dating relationship is going to work with this guy and you're gambling on whether it will or not. That's an unsure thing.
Here's the worst case scenario : You date this guy, you upset your best friend, and you lose her. This guy later, possibly, becomes disinterested in you, and you lose him too. You now have no one.
Best choice: You keep your best friend, because she is tried and true and has been there for you. And you keep Bob as your friend, because we all need friends to enjoy being around. And you go find someone else to date, and include him in your circle of "friends".
Don't throw away your best friend for an unsure thing, dearheart. She doesn't deserve that, and I think you know it.
Best wishes to you.
2007-01-27 18:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your best friend about this at all? What is her perspective on it? Keep in mind, its not worth ruining a friendship over a guy and you have the possibility of ruining two friendships, your best friends and also the one you have with him too. I would talk to her first and see what her thoughts are on it and if she is going to be seriously upset with you I would not date him and I also suggest you find out how much he actually likes her, if he really doesnt like her but likes you and she is ok with you dating him then go for it, but if its going to mess up your friendship with here, i wouldn't do it.
2007-01-27 18:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by teresawol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with the guy that you and your best friend like. Its not your fault he's interested in you and not her and just have fun. On the other hand usually its best to stay friends alot longer before you try a relationship out so just have fun together and go out sometime
2007-01-27 18:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by lyricsseven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best foundation for any solid relationship is Friendship. To remain friends is the key, if you believe that this guy can maintain this level of commitment, then he is worth the world.
2007-01-27 18:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what?? I think you should just be friends with him. Because friendship lasts longer than relationship and it doesn't seem like you REALLY like him. I think it just seems like you're trying to get your best friend mad. So before you ruin two friendships, think it over.
2007-01-27 18:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever will make you happy. I did that about 10 years ago and I didn't goout with the girl and to this very day I still wonder what could have been. If I had it to do over I would have gone out with her.
2007-01-27 18:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by Rick James Fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are not that many black scholars at my college the two and no person looks to care approximately all of us's skin shade. the only racist comments I ever pay attention are from the previous adult males that stay out interior the country component of city. so which you need to basically attempt, probability is, he would be fantastic with you.
2016-11-28 00:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does "bob" know that your best friend likes him? you and your friend should come to an agreement of letting him ask one of you out since you both like him, if he asks you then go if he asks your friend don't get mad, be happy for her,
2007-01-27 18:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by brandonjb2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him and do what you want. Your friend will get over it. When you both like the same person, you have to stake your claim before she does. Until she is actually going out with him, he is anyone's game.
2007-01-27 18:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by red_necksuck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to you friend.Sort things out.Tell her everything.Let her know that you are goin to take a move on him.Observe her expressions.Estimate her feelings.Don't hurt her with words.OR,ask the boy out to meet with both of you girls,ask him to choose wether is it you or her.
2007-01-27 18:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Stefan Kho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋