I did that and boy... all the pressure is off. I feel like with that label.. I can be myself.. and let them try to control someone else.. with that label I feel free of the ties they once had... Just wondering who else out there has accepted the role of black sheep or outcast.. because the price of being in the family cirlce of appreciation was too high?
2007-01-27 18:17:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have, but the truth be told honey is when you are labeled the
'black sheep' it usually means you may be the more saner of the family but because something you do that breaks the tradition of the cycle of the family you are from, this makes you an outcast.......cause you chose to be different.....maybe they want to do or be some of the strengths you are but for whatever reasons they dont....they stay in the box....if you know what i mean.........so you are now the black sheep of the family cause you are out of synk....anyways that is just my experience.....i dont label myself as such to satisfiy them, I just walk away from them trying to treat me as such and have learned to do it in a more productive healthy way for myself......i just say okay it is time for me to go....call me when you can handle my presence or i will call you later, love you bye........this has helped them kick back from the labeling but it all is a process........just accept yourself and it wont be such a big deal if your family accepts you ( you still will think about it but not as much). just know it is their problem not yours.
2007-01-27 18:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave up trying to please my family years ago. Im so much happier without them now! But I don't regard myself as the 'black sheep.' I am better than that. You can pick your friends but not your relations. Just because you are biologically related does not mean that you will all get along and be happy ever after. I have friends that have been more like family to me than any of my so called 'real' family.
My motto is: 'The people that mind don't matter, and the people that matter don't mind.
I wish you all the best! :o)
2007-01-27 20:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 03:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still recovering from Thanksgiving when most of our children and their spouses came to visit. It put me in such a depression that I hardly remember Christmas. Hopefully, I'll be out of this funk by Valentines. I'm tired of all the fragile egos (both children and their spouses) and the "special" diets that they are on (and you know they can never be the same diet). So when they come to visit they expect you to have all their "special" needs available. A person would have to have a special shopper to keep up with them not to mention the ever elusive money tree.
I've decided I'm not catering to any ones wants anymore, especially dietary. I don't mind altering for food allergies, but when you visit and have chosen to be on a diet or have become vegetarian - you're on your own. I'll cook for my husband and I and you're invited to share what we have, but I am not a short order cook!
Wow, I feel much better. Thanks.
2007-01-27 18:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea I'm the black sheep always have been and I'm the one who was always there for everyone even though I was the black sheep. But nobody was ever there for me so now after years of tring I think of myself 1st. It does feel better and not so much worries.
2007-01-27 18:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I pretty much am in the same boat. I haven't labeled myself the black sheep, but I am doing things my way.
2007-01-27 18:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely
2007-01-27 18:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes dear i too was a black sheep and my sis was perfect.I used to take my little kids to moms every Sunday and i left there feeling less like a human from their stinging remarks and to this day it has affected every aspect of my life and I just don't have warm feelings toward either of them and I can't help it.If you can don't let them drag you down get counseling now and realize that you are a worthwhile human being who deserves love just as much as your other siblings.do it now don't turn out like me
2007-01-27 18:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in my family is a black sheep. That's not normal?
2007-01-27 18:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by joupedamom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as a family man you don't get fed up but what you have to do is try and find another way which may suit whatever is bodering.
Good Luck!
2007-01-27 18:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Invasion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋