I have a boyfriend and a girlfriend. My girlfriend's boyfriend wants to be friends with benefits with me. and my boyfriend and girlfriend want to be friends with benefits. Being the least experienced in the group...and having an extreme jealous side in me...I don't want to hurt the relationships between us. I want to experience my boyfriend and girlfriend separately before anything goes on between couples. I don't want to ruin everyone's fun...but I don't want to risk it. What to do? They've left the decision up to me.
2007-01-27 18:12:45 · 15 answers · asked by CuriousLikeACat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO WAY!!! that's just weird. i don't care how "experienced" they are. that is just strange!!!! ewwww!!!!
2007-01-27 18:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by i wish i knew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being young is the perfect time to experiment. Enjoy it all. Get everything out of your system first: The three-ways, the one-night-stands, the fetish girls, the fantasies.
If you don't, then you'll always wonder about it. Then, one day, you'll decide to try some things before it's too late, and likely ruin a good relationship.
2007-01-27 18:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never works. You will always end up in an area where one person wants more commitment and the other wants no commitment. Jealousy will be a big problem.
Also, having multiple relationships will probably eventually lead to jealousy and commitment problems too.
2007-01-27 18:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by red_necksuck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've experimented with sex in situations similar to yours. My advice is be honest with the people involved. It sounds like you are trying to explore your sexuality with both men and women to find out what you like. There's nothing wrong with that. Keep in mind someone's feelings are bound to be hurt in a situation like this, so you have to becareful of different people becoming jealous.
Most importantly, use protect when you have sex with other people. You never know how many people your parnters have had sex with (or your partner's parnter's).
2007-01-27 18:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to risk it, you have it right there. You have already told yourself not to do it. This is a tangled web about to be weaved. All the relationships would change. Not a good idea.
2007-01-27 18:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah mama you've got some drama.... take it easy. If you were truly comfortable with this then you wouldn't be on here asking for advice. Trust me.... threesomes with friends = problems.... (especially because you said you have a jealous side)
2007-01-27 18:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by joupedamom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but I think friends with benefits is very degrading to anyone. The "friendships" are just sex based. I see it like this, you are using your body to keep your friends. That isn't right, its disrespectful to your body. Don't stoop disrespect yourself like that. Once all if it is over, you will have no one and you will feel bad about yourself.
2007-01-27 18:18:19 · answer #7 · answered by Andigurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since none of you are in a monogamous situation, does it really matter? you are in an experimenting phase so flip a coin but just make sure you are all protected from STDs and pregnancy ...
2007-01-27 18:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by kewtber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't guarantee that no one gets hurt, however this is experimentation and no one knows where that will lead. I can guarantee you my definition of respect. Do what works for you and live with no regrets.
2007-01-27 18:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Sex based relationships are not good. Please protect yourself and use condoms. U should stick with 1 person that u love.
*Good luck*
2007-01-27 18:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by TrayLuvsJay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ur boyfriend and say" id rather not"
2007-01-27 18:15:48 · answer #11 · answered by LiTlE mIsSy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋