I just don't care. I don't care if I go to a family function. I don't care that they guilt me and say 'my kids are missing out' or 'grandma only has one 80'th birthday'. I am so tired of guilt trips, religious family thinking that I am messing up my kids lives, and that I am a sinner that will regret my life when i see the light (even though they don't say it anymore.. the whole 'we are praying that you will see the error of your ways' is in the air). My brother has done so much dope, that even though he is sucesful and handsome, he has the maturity of a 14 year old and can't respect my kids or my bounderies and hurts our feelings alot. When I get upset, or don't want to come, everyone is upset that I am being so hurtful and disrespectful to the family. I really just don't care about them anymore. All I want is peace. They cause my anxiety attacks. I just don't care anymore.
2007-01-27 17:51:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You sound so much like me it kind of creeps me out. At times, I've thought that my family is doing me and my son more harm than good. I was to the point that I was going to move across the country and not have to deal with them anymore. I finally realized, that aside from the drama and bullshit, my family are the ones who will back me up and support me in anyway no matter what. No matter what I do, they are the ones that will always be there to pick me up and encourage me to go on. I'd do the same for them. That's what keeps me close. (at least within a few hours).... take care.
2007-01-27 18:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by joupedamom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care, don't push yourself right now. If in two weeks you don't care about anything, you may have depression. Some counseling for the anxiety attacks may help. You could also arrange for your kids to see your family without you, and you could see your grandma on another day when it's just the two of you.
2007-01-27 17:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he started relationship too quickly if he hasn't cleared this occasion up yet. This all could have been squashed in the past he started relationship, with the aid of fact it is not honest for the subsequent one (you) to could submit with it. i might purely tell him that his ex is making existence with him insupportable and you rather prefer a breath of unpolluted air. purely enable him comprehend he's unfastened provide you a decision while he grows a pair and gadgets some boundries together with his ex spouse.
2016-11-01 11:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you girl - "stick to your guns" - don't let your family dictate to you what you should or shouldn't do and whether you believe in a deity or not. Tell them your an "Atheist" or a "pagan" - that will really cause a stir - but your family, will then be afraid that your "atheist" teaching will rub off on some more of them - so you will. to an extent be ostracised - problem solved - no more family function invitations!!!!
2007-01-27 18:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't worth the stress on you. You only get one life. While family is important, your sanity is more important. If they don't respect your beliefs and wishes, then they don't deserve to see your kids. After a while, they might see that you are not taking any of their bull and decide to respect your right to raise a family YOUR WAY!!
2007-01-27 18:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by Roberta B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your tired of it all da drama and all da crap u get 4rm ur family then just live ur life and don't worry about wat others think, they shouldn't judge u like that witout truly knowing you. I've had experience in that. See I have 2 go 2 México every year wit my family and twice I've told my parent I don't want to go and they get disappointed that I don't wanna go and my sister even starts telling me dat the reason I don't wanna go 2 Méx is probably cuz I don't wanna leave my friends since I luv them more than her and she hurts my feelings by saying that bcuz its not true, so I just realized that she has no right to pass judgment on me when she knows nothing about me and I just don't worry about wat she says nemore bcuz its my life and I'm going 2 live it how I like, I suggest u do da same witout caring 2 much about wat ur family says.
2007-01-27 18:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i see if you are living on your own with your kids and being a responsible parent you really don't need your familys approval , your brother is mean to u and your kids stop talking to him until he changes you don't need to deal with that you are a adult right?
all that religious stuff forget about it god will be happy as long as you are doing the right thing for your self and your kids stop trying to please your family it sounds like its making you unhappy sometimes just because someone is your family dosen't mean they are good for you
2007-01-27 18:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by bluec4grace 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im going through that right now!! being here sometimes causes depression, i can only hope that things will get better....go out and find someone you can relate to or can relate to you,...recently i found my unlce on my dads side....he told me that i was in a place he still is today with our family...the outkast...Good Luck and best wishes for you
2007-01-27 17:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by jlmichel87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you're coming from. I've been giving all my life now I'm like screw everyone else especially if there not sensitive to my needs.
2007-01-27 18:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start living your life to please yourself; not for other people. If you try to live up to people's expectations, you'll drive yourself crazy. You have to do what makes you happy; what YOU feel is right. I went through alot of heartache, listening to other people's advice and remarks.
2007-01-27 17:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋