I need help my parents keep fighthing they ussually dont talk ever since my Dad injured his back at work its like you cant talk to him anymore he thinks its everyones fault and now he's saying he will leave us im really I dont know stressed I guess he just blames everyone you know sometimes I just wish he'd die thats how its gotten to me I dont want any of the counselor adivice family counceling IT Will not work I will leave it there for my own reasons,
I really dont know what to do?
I Feel sick I dont feel like eating Im starting to hate everyone around me.
All thanks to this "Dad" Whihc I dont even like calling him that anymore.
2007-01-27 17:38:02 · 3 answers · asked by dazzi_4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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Highlight what you just typed here and print it. Give it to him. If you don't, it'll eat you up. If you voice it with your words here, things may get a little crazy later, but you'll be glad you did.
GENERALLY....I won't say every time, but generally, a daddies little boy or girl can move the mountain of himself if he/she wishes it so.If you're dying inside, you have to tell him so.
Come up with a few things that you miss about him and how he was before. Tell him that you are hurting. The things he says and does is hurting you inside. Tell him, "Please please daddy. I don't want to hurt anymore."
He may not admit that he's a problem right away, but after you lay your feelings out for him, give him some time to digest what you have said.
He should mellow out once he thinks and realizes what he is doing to you. Just be honest. This isn't about him. It's about you. Stay focused in this. It's all about you.
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2007-01-27 17:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Fun Haver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how horrible that is for you. I bet you feel like your whole world is crumbling around you. And that is understandable because if your dad is treating everyone with such anger because HE has gotten hurt, then that is so very sad and unfair! I know that sometimes, adults will do that - they get a big injury like that (especially in the back or neck) and suddenly, their whole life changes as they knew it, and yes, it is difficult for them to make the adjustment, but they should NEVER take it out on their families!! In fact, if only they would realize that if they would be greatful to have their family around, and be loving, that they would find that their family would be a lot more loving back and more willing to help. I understand all of this - I had a really bad neck injury at work... I had 2 teenage boys and me at home at the time. I know how aweful it is when suddenly you can't work, and you are in horrible pain every second of every day, but I was so thankful to have my kids around. And then my fiance, I was always telling them how much I appreciated their help and how much I love them. And believe me, that is what works in a family! As far as how to help you, and I am really working hard at putting myself in your shoes to think of something here, the only thing I can suggest is this: Go to the school counselor, or call someone on a help line (you can find these in the front pages of the phone book, usually) and tell them your situation. I know that you said that you dont want counseling because it just won' t work - and I totally understand that - because I know that you mean that it won't because your "dad" is not going to let it - right? And you are absolutely right about that. If someone doesnt want help - they won't and can't get it unless they do want it. But, for YOU, if you just give it a chance and tell someone your situation, then I am sure they can help in someway. They may have some ways that can help you regardless of how aweful your dad is about everything. I'm confident that they can. Please give it shot....
Anyway, I will pray for you, and I really understand your pain..... I wish you well and remember - you are so very special and important - do not let this ruin your life!!!!! Keep seeking until you find the help you need - the help that is appropriate for your situation - it is out there!!!
2007-01-28 02:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter. Tell him how you feel from your heart. Sometimes when a man is injured and able to work, they feel unneeded or unwanted. Make sure that you tell him .I LOVE YOU. I MISS THE YOU YOU USED TO BE. HOW Can I help you be that man again?
\GOOD LUCK..
2007-01-28 02:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋