i think you should give the ring back. if the male breaks off the engagement should you give the ring back? i want to know proper etiquette not about how the engagement ended.
2007-01-27 17:30:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
well think of it this way.........you give the ring to signify a marriage to be........if the engagement is called off......then its only right to give the ring back regardless of who calls it off. women get away with way too much.
2007-01-27 17:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by snowsnake 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was always led to believe that the engagement ring is a gift. It's polite and the right thing to do to return the gift or ring if the woman is breaking the engagement. However, if the man changes his mind (without a just and valid reason), then the woman would keep the ring. This, of course, would nor apply if the woman had done something to cause the break-up.
2007-01-28 04:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette says that the ring should be returned no matter who broke the engagement; It is my understanding that "new" etiquette says that if the man breaks the engagement, the woman may keep the ring if she desires.
Personally, I don't feel that there is a right or wrong in this situation; this should be a mutual decision between the couple. There are men who want the woman to keep the ring if he broke the engagement.
2007-01-27 18:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by candace b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all fairness if the engagement is broken off… it means there is not going to be a marriage. The man and the woman are not going to marry. So if the female is not going to marry then why have the ring. She is never going to wear it. The logic in this situation is that if the engagement ends (no matter who calls it off) the ring has to be returned
Alternatively if you have been engaged for a while and you decided to break off the engagement because you are in love with someone else. Or if the engagement is broken off due to your fault/ betrayal then morally you shouldn’t be asking back for the ring.
2007-01-27 17:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette as I have learned it is this:
If the woman breaks off the engagement, she should give the ring back.
If the man breaks off the engagement, the woman should keep the ring.
These are just simple etiquette guidelines I learned in my sociology studies. I guess if the man breaks it off, he should let the woman keep it because it's a gift, and Indian giving is wrong. The ring is supposed to symbolize a promise to marry, so whoever breaks the promise should be the one who gets the lesser end of the deal. I guess that's how it works.
2007-01-27 18:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by eastchic2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either way the ring should be given back. As other answers have said, the ring is given with the commitment of marriage some time in the future. When the engagement I was in about a year ago ended, I gave him back the ring.
2016-03-29 05:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Loretta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unhappy Valentine: Wedding's Off, Pa. Law Says Ring to be Returned
February 15, 2006
If the wedding is off, the engagement ring must be returned, state law says, but a broken engagement and ensuing legal battle over a $35,000 ring may change that.
Mario Mele, a former Montgomery County commissioner who owns a dental insurance agency, met Janet Grace, of Philadelphia, a construction manager, in December 2004. Last spring, he gave her a 2 1/2-carat princess cut diamond set in hand-crafted platinum.
Less than two months later, he asked for it back.
Grace, who had designed the ring, refused, sold the diamond, and replaced it in the setting with a cubic zirconia.
Mele sued her, seeking the $35,000 appraised value of the ring plus $100,000 in damages, saying he was subjected to humiliation, anxiety "and other personal injuries.''
The state Supreme Court ruled in 1999 that an engagement ring was a conditional gift. "The woman must return it if the marriage does not occur, even if the donor broke the engagement,'' Justice Sandra Schultz Newman wrote.
Justice Ralph J. Cappy said in a dissent that was contrary to centuries of tradition that said whoever breaks a pledge of marriage should be the one to give up the ring.
Grace said Mele had asked that her ring be the only diamond ring she would own, so she had given five rings to charity and one to a niece, about $20,000 worth of jewelry in all.
"My ring was not a gift. I had to give up something to receive it,'' Grace said. "If I had not given up anything, I would have been happy to give it back.''
Mele's lawsuit argues that Grace disregarded his rights out of "personal spite and greed.''
State Sen. Joe Conti, R-Bucks, got wind of the dispute, and his office is drafting legislation that could be introduced as soon as next month.
Possible options include requiring jewelers to post notices about the law, and publishing consumer protection pamphlets, said Vicki Wilken, Conti's legislative counsel.
"It's not widely known,'' Wilken said. "I didn't know it, and we want to educate people so they don't end up in the same situation as Janet.''
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2007-01-27 17:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Gary S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring should be returned, regardless of who breaks it off. Except in the rare instance where the man insists the woman keep it. The ring may, in this case, be a reminder to the man of what he has lost.
2007-01-28 03:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring was given under the condition of a marriage, if the marriage does not take place then the ring should be given back.
2007-01-27 17:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the engagement ends, the ring should be returned, regardless of who broke it off.
2007-01-27 17:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋