Can childless people tell if you are a good parent or not?

Answer 1

YES.Childless people can tell you if you are a good parent or not.When they see your parenting they imagine what would they do in the same situation if your child was theirs and they can as well see your poor(or good) parenting.Childful or childless,if I see a person who spanks, yells, criticizes, humiliates, punishes,etc. a child,I honestly will consider him as a bad parent.Again childful or childless,if I see a parent who talks with(I said WITH,not TO) his child,tries to find the reasons on his/her behavior(not only to prevent the behavior,but to prevent the reasons as well),respects his/her child as he/she would like to be respected(in general treats his/her child as he/she would like to be treated),supports his/her child when the child has a problem,but encourages him/her to solve the problem on his/her own,lets his/her child tell him/her the truth for the mistakes(without being afraid of a punishment),etc. I will honestly say that this is a good parent who knows what he/she wants to achieve in the long-term and knows the best way to get there.

Answer 2

Possibly, but childless people only have half the picture. They will always see things from the point of view of the child. A childless person can certainly pick out severe physical abuse (can notice bruises like anyone else), but short of that can't really judge, as they are always in child mode and never parent mode. And it takes a parent, not a child, to raise a child.

Answer 3

There is a good reason why childless people can't have kids! It may be that they would make horrible or dangerous parents. Or it may be that they need to understand how precious children are before having any of their own. Or last but not least, it may be that they are needed to care for the children bestowed upon undeserving parents who can't or won't care for their children properly! These are the best kind and they would be a pretty good judge of whether or not you are a good parent, but it is not our place to judge your parenting skills, Just do the job the way you feel in your heart is the right and good way, and let the chips fall where they may.

Answer 4

If you have no children, then you're not, technically a parent! Unless you have some part-time arrangement w/a relative or someone else, but then, you're really a caregiver, not a parent, as such. Why do you ask?

As for the know-nothings who spouted off about child-free people being "unable" to judge parenting skills: PFFT! You show your ignorance in spades! I don't run the stock market either, but I certainly know when it's NOT doing well! It doesn't take a genius to figure out how to parent, just a compassionate person. Unfortunately, being a parent does NOT automatically come with this quality!

I DO have a child but I can think of many more child-free couples who might have done a better job than I have, much as I've tried. Likewise, I can think of many, MANY people WITH children who would have been abusive, selfish failures, judging by how they treated their own kids!

At least I ADMIT MY MISTAKES! Along w/our current "president", it's time we ALL started doing more of that and stop making excuses for our failures!

Answer 5

Sure they can.

Knowing what makes a good parent and having good parenting skills and a good understanding of child development, children's emotional needs, etc. is not about who has already had children or not. Its about having a certain type of ability when it comes to children.

Before I had children I planned out what kind of parent I'd be, what my philosophy would be, how I'd deal with different issues, etc.; and then when I became a parent I followed those things I had thought out before I ever had children. I was the same person before I had children as after when it came to whatever I knew about being a parent.

People who may not have children yet haven't been living under a rock and are often pretty intelligent when it comes to what it takes to be a good parent. (Some people who have no kids don't have a clue, but some people who have kids don't have a clue either.)
Its about the person, not whether they have children.

There are some things about how we feel or what emotions may factor into some of our child-rearing decisions, but in general and when it comes to having "parenting skills" it isn't about who has had children.

Look at SuperNanny.

Answer 6

Yes. Any person with common sense and a little time for observation can see things that can be improved... in any situation they observe- child-parent relations, spousal relations, work relations.... The list goes on.

Your question could be reversed- Can a parent tell what kind of childrearing a non-parent is capable of?

As a potential adoptive mother, I really struggle with this. I know that there are certain things kids need- love, structure, attention... Each child needs these things in differing amounts, often expressed differently.

I'm sorry that you've been judged harshly by those without children.




"You keep miscarrying because God has judged you to be an unfit parent, and I don't want you touching my child."

This was said by a mother to a woman who'd miscarried 4 times.

She's lucky she didn't say that in front of me. "Sooo... You're saying that just because I can't have children 'naturally' that God, Himself knows I'll be a bad mom? That is the biggest load of bovine excrement I've ever heard!"... I won't tell you what SHE's been up to lately... ;)

Answer 7

Honestly what is a good parent? We all have our own way of parenting who to say if it is right or wrong. So to answer the question I dont believe childless people or people with children can tell!!!!!

Answer 8

It is my opinion that unless you have had kids you don't know how to deal with them on a daily basis. Granted anyone with common sense can tell right from wrong. Although as far a discipline and eating schedules etc the people without kids should but out. Every body is different when it comes to parenting because each kid is different. Not all situations are the same. You have to deal with each child differently. The best advice I can give is if you think you are doing what is right and the child is not in any harm then continue what you are doing.

Answer 9

Well if your kid is a spoiled brat, and behaves like a spoiled brat, is physically violent to everyone around him/her mistreats pets, is mean and nasty, doesn't behave, doesn't obey figures the rules don't apply to him/her and the world revolves around them...Hell yes childless people can tell. ANYONE can tell just by the behavior of the child what kind of a parent you are.

Answer 10

some childless people are not able to have kids but that does not mean that they can't tell when someone else is a good parent

Answer 11

It depends. I mean if a childless person sees that your child is always dirty or only eats junk food etc.. then those are obvious signs for anyone to know that your parenting skills are lacking.