2007-01-27 16:52:14 · 31 answers · asked by lucky 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You did the best thing for the child. You could not have given her a good life as you were just a child too. Don't listen to what everyone says. Judge for yourself who you will listen to and what is right and wrong. You do know that it is not necessary to tell people don't you? It is really no ones business but yours and maybe your husband.♪
2007-01-27 19:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are brave and that you probably chose to do what was not only best for your child, but best for you. I don't know how old you are now, but perhaps you even got to do an open adoption where some day you have the option of forming a relationship with your child - IF that's what you want. I don't understand why people criticize you but if I had to hazard a guess, I would say it is because they are insecure with the choice that they think they would make... perhaps you make them feel weak because they know they would have taken an "easier" way out? Of course, what way of dealing with an "unwanted" pregnancy is "easy"....? Perhaps the people who are criticizing you are all part of a larger group that all have the same opinion about adoption? You don't mention who exactly does this. But anyways, I think you were brave.
2007-01-28 01:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by prausefrau 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are jerks, would they have said the same thign if you had gotten an abortion? I mean really it's not okay to adopt your baby out but it's okay to abort them? There is something seriously wrong if that is the case. It takes a strong Woman to carry a baby just to give him or her away. Abortion on the other hand is the selfish way out but it has it's consequences and I think that it would be harder to deal with as the years go by wondering what he or she would have been like, but at least you know that your daughter is alive and well with a family that could give her what you could not at that time. I applaud you!!!
All you abortion supporters why don't you become adoption supporters? There are so many people out there that can't have kids. Plus abortion has so many health risks, infertility being one of them.
2007-01-28 02:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by WINGS 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think that it is because some people cannot understand how another person could give up there child, a life that shares the same blood that flows through them, that they carried for 9 months, that they brought into the world. I can understand their point of veiw. I also cannot completely understand how a person can give up their child because I have never been in that position, but I can understand some ot the reasons of why people do it and I can respect the decision. People have no right to criticize you for giving your child up for adoption, if you thought it was the right decision, it was the right decision. You did what was right for you and your child, how could you be wrong.
2007-01-28 01:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by woaikonglong 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are still seeing abortion and adoption a negative things for example there are so many reasons someone may have to give there child away and thats not a bad thing I cant stand those who blame or shun the people who gave up a child.. personnally I think it takes a very stong person to be able to give up a child and my heart goes out to you for I know from a family member who has done this how it aches and can eat at you if your that sensitive about it. As for the stupid ignorant people who think your a terrible person for doing so screw'em they arent worth listening to or having anything to do with.. It's like me I hate everything to do with abortion and I mean everything I think it shouldnt be done unless the parent is really sick or unfit.. but ya know its not for me and I dont judge those who do it thats there choice so its the same kinda thing i think people see abortion and giving up a kid with a thin line separating them..
I hope that helps some and take it easy I know it couldnt have been easy but you know what life goes on Im sure she is very happy and one day I hope you two can reunite and be the best of friends...
2007-01-28 01:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Princesskitten 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well probably because it started out that you were having sex at 16. But a lot of people think it's sad to put your baby up for adoption. I think it would be the best choice, to give her up for adoption and hope she gets a better life...Rather than drag her with you and trying to make it in the world out there. I don't support the fact taht you got pregnant...at 16, but you can't do much about it, since it's not like teens don't do it everyday. You were just a little unlucky.
2007-01-28 01:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
because people fear what they do not know. i have a 1 year old daughter i adopted a year ago. many people still say things about her birthmother. i stop them before they can finish the sentence. they don't understand how much love a mother that makes an adoption plan for her child has. in your case, someone of only 16 years, when your life should have been all about yourself, you took a step outside of yourself and thought more of another being than you. you and only you knew the entire situation, and decided that someone other than yourself could provide a life for that child and offer more opportunities to them than you could. it's nothing to be ashamed of, it's something to be proud of! if I'm ever around you and people are criticizing you because of it, i will stop them right there also. I'm a big woman, with muscle, and i don't get questioned often,lol. i have never let anyone for a moment think that my daughter's birthmother couldn't provide the love i can. she loved my child more than words. and if it's possible to love my daughter as much as i do, she is the only person that can. she saw the opportunities and lessons we could show her child, and decided that this baby would be safe in our arms. she gave us the most precious gift anyone ever could. and she did this out of love, and pure, true love only. and damn anyone who thinks otherwise!
2007-01-28 23:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by cagney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to look at it from the side of that there are so many people trying to get pregnant and can't BUT you did the right thing. If you could not take care of the baby, you gave it to someone who could instead of having an abortion. Don't worry about what people say. People can be cruel what matters is you did what you felt was right which is more than I can say for a lot of teenagers these days. I respect your decision very much!
2007-01-28 01:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by busemomme 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You made the ultimate sacrifice, I am sure you already are feeling a lot of guilt, and for people to criticize your decision just proves them to be ignorant. You obviously made a life choice for your child and yourself, because you felt you could not give your child the best chance at life. While you getting pregnant at such a young age is a lesson in itself to you, I applaud your decision, by thinking of your child first. You obviously gave a life gift to a couple who are so very grateful to you. Life is about making decisions, and learning a long the way. Don't let people get you down, think about "why" you made your decision, and I am sure their feelings will not make a difference when you really think about it.
2007-01-28 10:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
those people need to take a flying leap................. You made a wonderful choice, gosh, I can't imagine the heartache. It is people like you that deserve a lot of praise! I know that it had to be a hard thing to do. I see it from another angle. I have 2 adopted brothers. I am so thankful to those women who decided to do this. that has to be the most unselfish act anyone can do. you did the right thing for your baby.
God Bless you!!
2007-01-28 01:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by Meli 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋