My boyfriend and i have been together for only 9 months. We are both in the situation that its time to move out of our parents but for different reasons. I still think it will be a few months till either of us are full ready. So im just wondering is that too soon to move in together. I think in a way it may do well for our relationship as his parents are alot older than mine so i cant spend as much time there as i would like.
2007-01-27 16:48:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand not enough sex time. Go for it.
2007-01-27 16:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved out of my parents' house and in with my boyfriend after only 2 weeks. This is a really short time, but we had known each other for about 2 years prior to dating. We weren't sure about it at the time either, and it took a lot of getting used to. In the end, it strengthened our relationship and we've been together since then. It is now four years later, and we are still living together and are planning to wed in August. My situation may be completely different from yours, so it is really a choice you have to make completely on your own. Our relationship turned out for the better, while other people have relationships that never work out. If you feel ready to move in together, go for it, but be ready for some completely new experiences and changes in your life. If you feel you might need more time, take it. If you are questioning your relationship status at all, you should probably wait. Not everyone is as lucky as we have been. Good luck to you!!
2007-01-28 00:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ashes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on if you feel it's right. My fiance of a year and a half wouldn't live with me in our own place because he wasn't the right guy for me. But then my brother is moving in with his girlfriend on their one month anniversary. (They were friends for a couple of years first). So it all depends on how you feel. If you BOTH feel it's right, then it's right. If one of you has doubts, then don't do it. It won't be just about spending time together. It will be about paying bills, doing things separately with your friends and family, doing things together with friends and family, etc. It's not always everything you thought it would be. After you set up your home, things can fall apart very easy. I'm not saying this because I don't think you're ready, because only you know that. I am only saying this because I want you to have open eyes.
2007-01-28 01:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to really think about the fact that you only
been together 9 months, and you are still finding out about
each other, if you are moving in for the wrong reason then it
be a problem down the road. trust me. maybe you need to take
it slow and see how thing go downt the way. before you make
this move. this could help or hurt the relationship.
2007-01-28 01:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really depends on what your "different reasons" are. it's one thing to move out of our parents, but it's another to move in with a 9 month partner.. i'd strongly recommend being on your own for a while, if you can afford it.
then again, many people rush into cohabiting for various reasons and it works.. so it's hard to say.. just remember moving is a huge event.. and you really need to think to yourself..will this relationship last long term? or will you just have to move again in another 9 months if/when you break up..
living together would be a huge step for your relationship. it's one thing to date on friday nights, and a totally different thing living 24/7. instead of just seeing him at his best, you will see him at all times..
2007-01-28 00:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I hope u are over 21. Second, nine months is not alot of time to get to know each other. Give it some more time. If u are younger than 21 I would not recommend it, relationships can be very complicating.
2007-01-28 00:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by abbyrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell from me i have expericened this moving in with boyfriend thing....its a VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY BAD IDEA VERY BAD IDEA. You need to date him for a least a 1 year or 2 so you see his true colors fly and really get to know him.....only at this stage stay the night once a week only and see how things go. heck you might not end up marrying him. sorry but hey its true....i have been there. i moved in with boyfriend after a few month and things went bad after our true colors flew and we have child together and the guy and i have not been together for 3 1/2 years. besides he is bad news. when you think you know someone, we can not truely know someone not even ourselves. think about it for moment. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS YOU SWEETIE ANGELS ARE WATCHING OVER YOU.
2007-01-28 01:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by honey2bloved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 17 I met my boyfriend. We moved in together after one month of dating. We both wanted to move out of our parents houses. We have 2 kids together and our relationship lasted 13 years. We grew up and grew apart because we were so young when we started out. But hey, if you have to move and need a roommate why not your boyfriend??!!!
2007-01-28 00:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's too soon, but that's just my opinion. I generally think moving in is best for the guy and worst for the girl. She forfiets her leverage for a more permanant set up like marriage. It will either get seriously delayed or it may become moot altogether. Guys think differently than girls, for him it's totally convenient, for you it's a big step away from the possibility of marriage.
2007-01-28 00:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by TJTB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be prepared for the extra stress that living together can put on your relationship. do not underestimate the effect this stress can have on you both. living together takes lots of compromise, be ready.
2007-01-28 00:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by daddius42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bad bad bad bad idea.
guys and girls have two whole different ideas about moving in. don't do it. it doesn't turn out well. trust me. give your relationship some more time first.
2007-01-28 00:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋