i just turned 15 and i don't have a boyfriend and i kinda don't want one yet.
I dont really like being in relationships cause i dont see a point in having them so young if you know they won't last, and are just gonna cause unneccessary pain. Or i just dont like anyone. My friends sometimes think its wierd.
Am i wierd for thinking this way?
2007-01-27 16:47:53 · 18 answers · asked by purple haze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no you are completely correct because, what's the difference between having a male friend and a BOYfriend ? its just sex.
so its not necessary to have one at your age.
and good on you for using your brains. :)
2007-01-27 17:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very smart and sensible person. You are not weird in fact you may be a little more mature than your friends. You should only have a boyfriend when you think you are ready not because your friends do or because of peer pressure. I'm with you on being too young. Concentrate on school and having fun. Live life, no need to be involved in a relationship that you may not be emotionally ready for. You can still have boy friends without being involved and learn to know the opposite sex before you become someone's girlfriend. Just my opinion.
2007-01-28 00:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by lilianainthedesert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, boyfriends are kinda hard to maintain at this age. Its just too much work at that age. Though i was thinking the same as you, that relationships are a hassle and theres no one that really catches your eye. And they do cause unessarry pain. Until i found this one girl. Though she seemed so amazing, i decided girlfriends could be great again, lol. Everything was perfect about her, in my eyes. And she actually liked me two. Though, because of letting my emotions get the best of me, i was the cause of the ending with this amazing girl. I still miss her. You will find someone. Some guy will change your mind, trust me i know ;)
- The Date Doctor Robert
2007-01-28 01:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Robinhood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're gonna go a long way for thinking with your head. may be in another year or two when you have seen life with a better perspective and learned from the foolish mistakes your friends have made,then you can start actually committing to some one or so called the 'bf'.and may be you have a good relationship but nothing is guaranteed. in the mean while may be you could just go out on dates. life has got ot have a balance. put your attention 95% on you school work and give 5% to your dating life. but don't commit because your not ready. your a sensible girl !! keep it up !!
2007-01-28 01:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wierd at all for thinking that. I look back on my high school days and I am glad I was not in a serious relationship. I had WAY more fun just being single and independant. Then I think about my friends that had relationships all through high school and I feel like they missed out on ALOT, maybe they don't see it that way, but it's just my opinion. If you are to be in a relationship it will find you and your heart will know it! Don't hold back if you start to have feelings for someone.
2007-01-28 00:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jared 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you and no, your not weird just real smart for your age. When my daughter's friend were all starting to date at age 14 she thought she should be allowed to date also. We told her we wouldn't even consider her dating till age 16. Told her at age 14 you are way to young and can get in situations you are not mentally equip ed to deal with. She threw her little 14 year old fit but that was our rules. She is 30 now and one day she told me she was so glad we would not let her date at a young age. She said when a boy asked her out she could blame it on her parents. My parents won't let me date, she wasn't lying and it made them feel better that she wasn't rejecting them, it was her parents fault. She said most the time she didn't really want to go out with them anyhow.
So, feel free to blame it on your parents, I'm sure they won't mind, it will keep you out of trouble. I'm glad to hear there are still some smart teenager out there.
PS This daughter decided as time passed and a lot of her girl friends had married and divorced she was going to be real picky choosing a husband. She just married a wonderful man, I would have picked this guy for her myself. So, take your time in life and choose well. I read once where the most important decision you will make in your life is who you marry. It can make your life wonderful or a living hell. I believe that.
2007-01-28 01:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're weird. If you're afraid of being hurt, I think you need more self-esteem. I'm not saying that it won't happen, but it sounds like you don't want one because if you're hurt by one, you don't like yourself enough to recover from it.
I'm not telling you this because I think I'm better than you; I'm telling you this because I am you. I'm 18, and I've had boyfriends, but I was in a bad relationship in September. After that, I didn't want a boyfriend because I thought that I wouldn't be able to trust anyone. It's only since December that I considered the idea, and I'm still not sure if I'm ready to put myself out there again.
You know why? I was afraid that the guy I liked didn't like me, even as a friend. But when I got back to school in January, I realized just how overly paranoid I was. I like me. Many people were really happy to see me when I came back. I don't want to be with that guy anymore, but he likes me (as a friend). And if this wasn't enough, there were 3 or 4 new students, and they liked me even more than most of my old friends. Actually, I know that one of them talks highly about me to his other friends.
So if all of those people like me, and I like me, why should I let it get me down that 1 person wishes I was dead, and 1 other person thinks I'm a freak of nature? That's 2 people out of many. And it's 2 people that have issues anyway.
If you just don't like anyone, that's fine. You don't have to. But if you're afraid to be hurt, that can happen at any age. And it might not happen at your age. I know people who are engaged to their boyfriends from when they were 15. I know people who have had multiple relationships, but none of them were bad. In short, you just can't delay life.
2007-01-28 01:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by bisous148 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very smart 15 year old girl. Why dont you just date? You dont have to be in a relationship then. Just go out and have fun. And no, you are not weird.
2007-01-28 00:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My God, a teenager thinking with her brain rather than her body. Wonderful////// U are not the weird one., you are the smart one. You have plenty of time to "get a boyfriend". You will know when u are ready to date. Do not let anyone rush you.
Good for you....
2007-01-28 00:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by abbyrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you arent wierd for thinking this way, and i agree with you. what is the point if you are only going to be dating for a few days then break up. theres nothing wrong with that. your friends have their opinions and you have yours. thats fine.
2007-01-28 00:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋