Me and a good friend of mine stopped talking about a month ago and here is the scenario. For about a year her and I were GREAT friends but never made a bf and gf situation out of it. But it got to the point where we treated each other like it and almost like we were official and it didn't need to be finalized by words. But a month ago out of nowhere she starts dating some guy she knew for a week and suddenly he was her life. I really love her and feel stupid about our friendship getting all messed up. But people are telling me I shouldn't even bother with her and other say I should try talkin to her and make it all good. I am so confused and need any hep i can get. Thanks so much!
2007-01-27 16:30:24 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey
thats is a truly difficult, sticky situation. personally i have always dreamed about falling in love with a guy who is my best friend. you guys have been friends for over a year. you acted like bf and gf. truth is, maybe shes scared. maybe shes knows you two are perfect, and shes afraid of getting hurt. or breaking the bond you had. when ultimately this is even worse. i hate to agree with the others. but you really need to talk to her. but not to "make it all good." you need to let her know everything that is going on in your head, and your heart. you love her. you can never really know unless you take a chance. right? you cant hide it from her. nor can you ignore your feelings. and move on. i truly wish you the best of luck. i hope it works out!
2007-01-27 16:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by tiffanylovestodance 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man this must be a real hard thing to deal with. but all I can say is. if you really love her the way you make it out to be then you should try to talk to her about the hole situation and let her know why you got upset. If she doesn't want you back as a friend then she really never was faithful to you. But you seem like a real nice person and from my personal experiences with girls you shouldn't have any problem getting someone else. Good Luck man
P.S. don't listen to the Jerk Off above me he is probably just some loser who sits in his moms basement all day bum raping people
2007-01-28 00:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Smooth Move EX-LAX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may not have had any idea you felt that way for her the entire time the two of you were close friends. When you parted ways, she might have assumed there was no chance that the two of you might become friends again, let alone become boyfriend and girlfriend.
I would give her some space, and give it time. If things don't work out with this guy she is seeing, you can then be there for her as a friend, and it may bring you both closer together again.
If it does work out with her and this guy, then it may not have been meant for you two to be together in a romantic way.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-28 00:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
R u upset because u lost a girlfriend, or are u upset because u lost a friend. I think u two leaned on each other for support and as friends. When she got involved with another fellow u felt betrayed. U want her as a friend. Stay loose. Depending on the age of the girl, the relationship most likely will not last. Be there for her.
2007-01-28 00:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by abbyrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she did that mabey she was freaking out and couldn't handle it.
You should sit down and ask her what is up because if you never ask you will never know.She may surprise you and even though she is with someone tell that she likes you so a least try it or you will regret it not trying later. Don't feel bad know matter what because you know if it is bad then you can be hurt and begin the healing process and move on.Good luck
2007-01-28 00:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by blackglitter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I know that you feel like you messed up but you need to know that telling your friend that you have feelings for them sometimes could destroy or complicate a friendship. If you really like her and you are at the point that you don't can if your friendship will be different or not. I think you should sit her down and truly tell her how you feel.
2007-01-28 00:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by ben27hernandez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously doesn't feel the same way about you. She might love you but just as a friend...not as someone that she wants to have a serious relationship with. I just know that I had a guy like that in my life. Someone who I could hang with, talk to about anything, and had a blast with. But I didn't ever want anything romantic with him. If she can't see you as anything more than that then it will be hard to convince her otherwise. But it is always worth a shot though...good luck!
2007-01-28 00:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if her friendship really means a lot to you and you love her, or care for her? talk to her... tell her your feelings about what has happened and where you thought you two were... but that her friendship means the world, and you do not want to lose it....
don't let go of a great friend over anything if it is a "good" friendship..... friends that stick by you, laugh with you, and cry.... those are too hard to come by... treasures....
good luck
2007-01-28 01:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's apparent that you are the only one thinking that you two are dating. She doesn't think about you that way. You should move on and not get hanged up with her. If you are convinced that she felt for you that way too, maybe she wants recognition as your gf and you're not giving her that. So, she didn't know you also feel for her that way and find someone else instead.
2007-01-28 00:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by HopeGrace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you fight, or did she just stop talking to you? If nothing bad happened, tell her that you know you're not her boyfriend, and you don't expect to be treated as such, but you miss her as a friend. If you did have a fight, then just wait for her to come around. She'll realize she messed up once she breaks up with him.
2007-01-28 00:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by bisous148 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋