From an advice colum off a teen website:
Hi, my name is Lucy I am 18 and will be heading off for college soon but I don't want to leave my boyfriend, well my mom's boyfriend. We have been having a secret affair for 3 years and I love him very much. He is the only person besides my dad (who is 1,000 miles away) to show me any sort of kindness. We read each other poetry, go for long walks and can just sit and talk for hours. I don't want to leave him, I don't know if I will ever find anyone like him. I have no problem leaving my mom she doesn't even know I exist anyway so it won't be much of a change. I was thinking about going to the community college by my house so I can be near him, but I am ready for him to leave my mom and be with me. Am I being delusional, what should I do?
2007-01-27 16:26:51 · 22 answers · asked by trinigal33167 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lucy this is what u should do. yea alot of people believe that it's not right to be going out with your moms boyfriend but this is what I think. U should be with the person who you love you shouldn't let anyone come between both of you. It might hurt your mom if he leaves her but thats only if she has any feelings at all. But you know what u have to let her know that u love him and he loves u and that's it.
2007-01-29 08:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you are very delusional. This creep is nailing you and your mother? Nice!!! Seriously pumpkin, you should be only thinking about yourself. You have such a long time before you are mature enough for this drama to diffuse. Focus on you school instead, I have a feeling this creep is just having "fun" with you and your mom. In college sweetheart, you will meet so many different hot guy your age and same likings. What are you doing sweetheart?/ Do not ruin your future!
2007-01-28 00:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your mother's boyfriend and he is preying upon you. You say this affair has been occurring for 3 years??? That means it began when you were 15 and that most definitely makes him a pedophile. Think about the betrayal your mother will feel when she finds out about this affair. She trusts this man and not only is he abusing her trust, but he is sexually abusing her daughter. Go away to school and tell your mother everything. If you don't feel comfortable doing it in person, write her a letter and send it to her from school There is so much more out there for you than that human piece of garbage. You will absolutely find someone that is right for you and he will definitely be someone who is not romatically interested in or involved with your mother.
2007-01-28 00:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya924 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK y in da world r u going out wit your moms boyfriend. one that's going against blood.And two if he is older than your mother than your should even be wit him.
but on a serious note if he been with you and your mother for 3 years that there is a Chance that he is not going to leave no one well he might leave both of you at same time
2007-01-28 00:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepie j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are delusional. I think the missing presence of ur father is making u want to date a man older than u to remind u of him. Oh imma cut the crap. She a psycologists get some help. Go to college and date men ur own age . "other woman" not always good.
2007-01-28 00:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by me myself and i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him alone. Just like right now that you too are having a secret affair....What makes you think that he wouldn't do that to you? I think that the best thing that you could do right now is concentrate on getting your education. Once you get your education settled then you should try to find you someone.
2007-01-28 00:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by ben27hernandez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man (I'm assuming at least 30 years old) is willing to sleep with his girlfriend's 15 year old daughter, and she wants to know if she should give up her plans for life to be near him? YES, she's being delusional. She needs to tell her mom so she can dump this loser and they can both move on with their lives!!!
2007-01-28 00:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell this girl that she's the victim of a predator. A grown man that she trusted has taken advantage of that trust and manipulated her. Her mother needs to be informed and the police should also be called. A grown man in his right mind would NEVER be interested in a teenager. This girl needs counseling and she needs to get away from this man.
2007-01-28 00:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasnt left your mom yet then he wont do it. It has been three years. Go to college and get your education if he realy loves you then things wont change he will still love you, and come visit you and what not. The fact still remains that he is with your mom. More than likely he just wants to make you feel special and use you for sex. If its more than that to him then he will leave your mom and just be with you.
2007-01-28 00:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the question is what should he do . how you love him since he is your mom boyfriend ,you think it is OK he can leave her .but if he did so he can leave also when he find anther girl so don,t trust him ,if loves you so he doesn't love your mom so he is lying at her so he is a lyre ,watch him.you just should care about your self and your education ,and don,t worry there millions of nice men and better than him
2007-01-28 00:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by live4hoping 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋