my boyfriend and i are planning to get married this october. but he hasn't spoken to his parents about it yet. he promised me that he will talk to his dad this weekend. and when i asked him awhile ago, he said no - bcoz he doesn't know what to tell them. on top of that, his dad doesn't like me bcoz im skinny. he wants this other girl for his son. his dad ignores me all the time im there at their house. his mom is great as well as his sister and brother. its just his dad. he thinks that im not healthy or im sick or an addict bcoz im this skinny. by the way, my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 4 years now.
now im really upset. what do i do? do i wait for him until he's ready to talk to his parents about our plans? do you guys think he's ready for marriage? =(
2007-01-27 16:13:24 · 12 answers · asked by Chelsea's Momi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He is not ready for marriage if he is not ready to be a man and tell his father of your plans. You two are planning on spending the rest of your lives together. He needs to be able to support you fully and love you and stick up for you. After four years, his dad needs to let go of trying to hook him up with someone other than you. October is not that far away. Unless you elope, how are you going to do this without his family knowing what is up?
2007-01-27 17:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be scared of what his dad will think but that never stops a person from doing what they want anyway. If you brought up the marriage thing and he went along with it he might be having doubts but normally even if our parents don't like our choices we do what we want. So I would just wait it out and see what happens. I wouldn't pressure him or bring up marriage again.
2007-01-28 00:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure your man. He will talk to his dad and the rest of his family on his terms. He'll know when the right time to talk to them will be.
Try not to stress out. If you are getting married in October, you should be focusing on that.
2007-01-28 00:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i really dont mean to upset you but, well he is either scared of his dad or he respects him a lot, either way it wont help you...
honestly what i thinks is that if he loves you thats all that matters
and he should have the balls to go and tell his dad, specially because its a really silly issue that his dad doesn't like you( just because your skinny) the other think is that his dad should realize that it not him but his son who is getting married so yea
he is scared !
2007-01-28 00:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by rusty w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like a good sign if there's a problem like this. You and your man just need to go make the announcement to the family.
2007-01-28 07:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scared to tell his parents. Stand up and speak up now. Remind him that if he really cares about you he will marry you right away no matter what of his father thinks.
2007-01-28 00:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask him just that, he may not be ready for marriage
and that may be why he not said anything to his father about
your upcoming marriage, the parent should have been the first
one told. what up with that.
2007-01-28 00:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no he's not ready......speaking from experience, it makes a difference if the in-laws to be like or don't like you
2007-01-28 00:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been riding that pony for 4 years. Why would he want to buy it?
2007-01-28 00:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to him and ask him
2007-01-28 00:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋