One of my very best guy friends (who I've grown up with) just happens to be my crush. I've always liked him (a lot), and now I think he may have a girlfriend. He goes to a different school, and I found out from his mother that he is going to the Valentine's dance, and I suspect that he is of course taking a girl...I am just so jealous! We've been getting a lot closer, at least I felt like we were, and I was going to tell him how I feel...my best friend and I have a deal...if I don't say something by July 4th, she's saying something! I kept planning exactly what I wanted to say, but now I just can't! I'm driving myself crazy! He's the sweetest, funniest, coolest person that I know, and I don't want him to have a girlfriend, unless it's me! I don't want to be mad at him, but I am! I knew him first (I'll bet you all the money I've got), and I'm jealous! I guess I've always just felt like I automatically get him, since I was there first...now I have competition, and I hate it! Please help!
2007-01-27 16:02:24 · 8 answers · asked by Britt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't mean that I thought I automatically got him because I was here first! I meant that I FELT like that! I'm not full of myself, trust me, I have less confidence in myself than anyone I know, which is WHY I'm too scared to say something! I'm not used to having to fight for him, he's always just been there, and it's been like a kids-crush type of thing...now we're older, and it's so different. It's just awkward. But I'm not full of myself at all, and I didn't mean it that way. Thank you very much.
2007-01-28 12:36:34 · update #1
Just be straight out with him. Im sure since you are closer to him than that other girl. You have more in common with him more then she has with her. Find out if he has feelings for you. Love is not one way. If he doesn't want to be more than friends with you then there is nothing u can do about it. I'm sure he has feelins for you, after all good relationships start off being best friends. then the next level is being a couple. Pour out your heart for him. You like him right? go for him, you'll regret it if you dont speak up. Maybe he likes you, but is too shy to make the first move. Go for it.
2007-01-27 16:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have written a big long explanation on how you feel, but not one word on how he feels, I bet you any money you never asked him, you said it you assumed that you would automatically get him, this doesn't work. If he has no idea how you feel, why in the world would he do any thing with or for you, This time your shyness or secret or what ever stopped you has back fired big time. you snooze you lose. Boys or men do not get hints,or body language, They only understand good old fashioned English. and you failed there, so keep you jealousy to your self. boys change girlfriend more often than they change their socks, and the next time he is available Speak up do not wait until you feel up to the challange
2007-01-28 00:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him you like him. But don't be totally crushed or upset if he doesn't feel the same way and doesn't dump his girl for you.
He may not be interested in you that way. Or he may think that you werent interested in him.
Beware that telling him could risk the friendship.
But your jealousy of his girlfriend could risk the friendship as well. Imagine that for some reason one of your best friends doesn't like your significant other. Don't ever dump on the girl around him.
Tell him though. Have your friend tell him. But if it doesn't go the way you want it to. Do what you can to get over him and try and be happy for him for finding someone that makes him happy.
2007-01-28 00:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as telling him, just one day tell him. You have to get over that fear. But if you suspect he has a girlfriend, just stick around and be the best friend. It may pay off in the end. If not, at least you'll have an amazing friend.
And as far as your other friend saying something? I think that's pretty poor, but if you agreed, that so be it.
2007-01-28 00:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lyssepoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. There is an awesome girl who I tried to be a girlfriend to, but nope, she got another guy. It sucked. Of course, we are now still friends.
Act while you still can. Of course, don't go up and say "I love you", be subtle about it.
"Gee, so-and-so, I heard you had a girlfriend."
"Yep, That's right."
"Do you like her?"
"Um..yeah!"
"Really? I'm kind of jealous..."
It is at this point that you put your female skill of seduction into action.
Okay, not like that.
2007-01-28 00:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jsut go up to him and tell him how u feel. Guys love it when a girl appreciates them speciale if they know them which he knows u so just do. dont try just do. =D
2007-01-28 00:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by bubles*pop* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did it ever occur to you that you could ask him out at any time? Of course he might say no and ruin your fantasy, so maybe you could trick him into...yup, sounds like true love - you're definitely in love with yourself.
2007-01-28 00:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could talk to him and find out how he feels.
2007-01-28 00:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by chan72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋