should i mind my auncle saying that he considers being lesbian a disease. see he is some wat close to me not much but he is. and he told me dat he considers me having a disease. at the moment it did bother me but my mom nor my dad accept dat either so i don't know if i should pay too much attention to wat he said
2007-01-27 15:54:08 · 21 answers · asked by jbhennessy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it was once said "opinions are like assholes. everybody has one." but it is your choice to accept those opinions. if he cant accept you for you thats his problem. dont take it to heart. just remember you perfect the way you are and you dont believe those who say different.
2007-01-27 16:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have a "disease", but you are probably confused. Your uncle sounds like a closed mind person, because he can't accept you for who you are. And It isn't his place to judge you, or anyone for that matter - although you should try not to be so offended, because, like everyone does, he probably doesn't understand the situation in your way and is just expressing his opinions - even if he is going about it the wrong way. However, I suggest that you try talking to your uncle, because, saying you're not that close, communication is the key to a healthy relationship and this may be an opportunity for you to grow closer. Hopefully your uncle won't be so judgmental in the future and more accepting to other people's differences.
And I hope you can learn to love and accept yourself as well, no mater what you may discover.
Good luck!!!
2007-01-28 01:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ misschels ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your sexual preference is not a disease it's what you truly like that matters. I'm Bi and I know that if somebody told me I had a disease it would hurt my feelings . That must have hurt . If hes close to you tell him that you would rather he didn't comment about your desires as a disease if he can't accept that than as hard as it is maybe being close with sombody that makes you feel bad than it's just a toxic relationship ,and I hope you see that you absolutely should NOT pay any attention to it . It's negative untrue and has no benefits
2007-01-28 00:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Renwa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should mind to much if he thinks it is a disease. I agree it is not the best feeling to have about leasbianism, but believe me it could be worse. Mostly it depends on the tone of voice he used when he said it and since you where not offended immediately, I assume his tone was ok.
As for your parents, this is probably a shock, therefor give them time. You have to realize that they have had a lifetime a dreams for you. It will take time for them to accept that some of those dreams might not happen now, and that a whole new set of dreams are possible. You will be fine.
2007-01-28 00:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by shae b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You uncle IS being close minded. It's being close minded that is the disease. Your uncle should not be telling you that you have a disease simply because you are a perfectly normal human being that is attracted to the member of the same sex as you. Don't for a second, take on what your uncle thinks.
2007-01-28 00:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty Lucy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are a lesbian, considering the line where you say "he considers you having a disease" I would say you have a right to be offended. It's none of his business, and it's not like he can do anything to "cure" the "disease". I would ignore it, but if it continues, I don't think it would be out of line to tell him to stop.
2007-01-27 23:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by No O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They just think that if they say that, you will be afraid and want to be a heterosexual again. If you want a woman instead of a man as your partner, then there is nothing anyone can say to change that. It may be hard at first, but to fight who you are will be worse than accepting it. Live the way that makes you have, and maybe they will see and accept what makes you happy.
2007-01-28 00:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay attention to him, it's not a disease it's just the way he feels about it. Be who you are. Nobody's going to change what you are so just be it.
2007-01-27 23:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by strawberry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you shouldnt consider what your uncle is telling you. obviously he is the only one that has a disease and that disease is ignorance. if your parents accept you thats great. but its however you feel that matters.
2007-01-28 00:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by lanena2389 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your uncle thinks has nothing to do with who you are, it is a demonstration of who he is.
I wouldn't take what he says personally.
If he views you as sick, he has no right to judge you or blame you for it any more than someone that has cancer.
Know you are precious right where you are.
2007-01-28 00:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋