My girl and I have been together for 3 years, junior in college, and we go to seperate colleges. She recently transferred colleges and commutes to her college, from her parents house to her sisters on Tues, and comes back on Thur. The old college she went to is 1hr away, and she has a 'guy' friend there. She claims that she goes to her old college to visit her g/f on Wed, but I was on her facebook* and saw a message to her 'guy' friend saying that a she had the best time hanging out with him, and she promises to go down there every weekend, and he is the best cuddler ever.
I brought this up to her saying what the hell is this over the phone, she ends up getting real mad at me for looking at her personal messages, which I understand, but that still DOESN'T hide the fact that she wrote this message. She said that her and 'guy' friend are really good friends and if there is no trust there is no relationship, end of story. What to you guys think about this? *left facebook page on
2007-01-27 15:51:39 · 21 answers · asked by Alex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea man i mean if they were really just friends she wouldn't have gotten so mad about you seeing the message. you should find some one new. but in the end it is your decision
2007-01-27 16:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by Smooth Move EX-LAX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Females are precarious creatures. Always thinking about themselves.
You gave her a loaded gun with the Facebook situation, and she will point it at you everytime she feels pressured, knocked off balance or powerless - in order to gain control and intimidate you.
You obviously were gobsmacked & super jealous to read it, I dont blame you. I dont think she does either, but you gotta cover your tracks next time you wanna put 'trust' & loyalty on the line.
You say youve been together 3 years. Congrats, thats a ripe relationship but it maybe wilted. All food has a BestBefore date! I mean like, you guys are in your teens still, the peak of the 'experimenting' phase.
Through my experience, I can only say that she wants to move on. No honestly, I wouldnt want to make any hasty conclusions, but if shes giving you an ultimatum - "No trust, No relationship" - then it means shes upto something fishy. Shes insisting you play by her rules, has she said anything like this in the past?
You have to see that it is HER that is putting your relationship in jeopardy, she wants YOU to hiccup so she can walk away guilt-free, are you with me here?
I hate to put your confusion into a mental frenzy, but you 2 need a serious chat, period.
CHris N :o)
2007-01-28 00:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ginja-Ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly loves you, she would reassure you that there is nothing going on between her and the other guy. But, if this is the case, and she is serious with you, and your feelings, she would back off with this guy. Maybe she really is only a friend, but be careful. Give her the benefit of the doubt for now, and see what happens. Guard your heart and feelings. Good luck.
2007-01-28 00:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by bobbie e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what.... i always tell people i love them and they are great cuddlers and cant wait to see them again, and i had a great time with them, but it does not mean i was cheating....friends are allowed to cuddle you know....stop stressing, no wonder she's getting mad at you....chill out and dont hassle her, or you may lose her for good, being in college is not like prison, you are allowed to contact the outside world, he's her friend...thats it
2007-01-28 00:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best cuddler ever says it all,i mean a quick cuddle from a friend is fine,but to know,or in her opinion he is the best says they cuddled more then just friends do,yeah man she's got some on else for sure
2007-01-27 23:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by TOM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My instinct tell me is a big yes, she cheats u but u need to gather more evidence as i experienced being cheated and tell u frankly, the other person wont admits it no matter what as dishonesty seems to run in their blood... ask her close frenz and look into the eyes of her pal no matter what her close friend says, her eyes will betray the truth...
2007-01-28 00:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Hello 2012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes of course she is. don't worry about it though remember there are lots of Asian woman over seas that would treat you better or Russian Ladies, all kinds of foreign woman all over the world. just take her for what she is, and don't feel to bad, and you have every right in the world to check her message how else are you going to find out if she is cheating on you are not. my x girl friend went and seen her so called x boy friend one time, and i found out about it, then she tells me they slept in separate rooms, like i am suppose to believe that crap, be strong dude woman are evil don't let them ruin your life,
2007-01-28 03:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by devil weed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say more than likely so, sorry to say and i agree that if he where just a friend she would have tried to explain straight away and reasure you, not get mad! i think thats a bluff to hide that she is cheating. I'm sure you could do better!!!
2007-01-28 00:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dreamin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes..
It certainly seems like you are being played the fool, even from the little info you shared with us..
She is more than likely cheating on you..why would she spend so much time with this guy and be "cuddling"..
I think you know the truth , now take your pride and send her on her way out the door..You can and will find better...
2007-01-27 23:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were wrong to look at her facebook. but she also has to
explaing what going on, it reallly sound like she cheating on
you. and the fact that she got so mad at you is more
telling then you think. if she was not doing somthing she would
be mad. at you for snooping but to get so upset. something
is up.
2007-01-28 01:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋