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Question

Me and my mom get in fights sometimes.... she is so prtective and paranoid. I am much more outgoing.We disagree on everything..............what do u think i should do when she says something i dont like cause usually i just back talk. It is so hard not to.................plz help me

Answer 1

well first of all, don't talk back. Try talking respectfully and have an intelligent conversation about the subject at hand. that might produce very different results. She is protective because she loves you.

Answer 2

I am a mother, and I remember being very protective over my kids. It's just what happens to us women when we have kids to worry about. Some mothers go to the extreme, but try to look at it with her eyes. There are a lot of scary things going on in today's society, and she is just concerned about you. Sometimes a parent's fear makes a child feel not trusted or "watched" over. It's not that you're not trusted, she's just being a good, concerned parent. Fighting is not going to work. She has the last say, so all you're doing by arguing with her is making her mad and less likely to give in. Sit down with her and TALK about her concerns. Ask her, "Mom, what are your concerns about ........". See if you and her can come to an agreement. For example, if she won't let you go out with friends, first find out why. Then offer to call her every 2 hours to check in. Then do it. If you fail to follow her rules, then the fighting will continue. It may be a pain in the rear, but isn't it better then not going at all? Sit down and talk in a calm manner, and ask her what her fears are, and then tell her you'd like to find some common ground, where you can still have a life and she can still feel in charge and not afraid. My suggestion would be to have this talk now, not when you're getting ready to go out. Then the next time this comes up, you and her will already have this planned out.

Answer 3

oh trust me i know its hard and i know its hard to live with parents who are real paranoid and protective, some of the things they say because they know. for instance i found out recently my mom has actually smoked weed because of her friend and her friends boyfriend so she knows its not that good. just try to undertsnad what she is trying to say i know its hard but back talking isnt going to help. my brothers didnt understand that either and they were always fighting sometimes fist fighting long story short, they didnt listen and are now locked up. just dont lose your head when arguring and try to give her a chance.