My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. I love him to death and have no problems kissing or with him touching me. But I can't bear touching HIM at all. I did once or twice, but I always feel awkward or I get scared. I almost can't will my hand to move towards him.
I love him and I don't want him to feel as though I don't love him physically as well as mentally.
Am I just not ready for this sort of step? And if so, how should I breach the topic? He says that it's ok and he'll wait for me to be ready, but sometimes I just feel like he's angry...
2007-01-27 15:38:14 · 10 answers · asked by Lyssepoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he says he will wait for you then, no other discussion is needed. Just take your time and you will become more at ease if you are not rushed. Dont let every date end up touchy feely, that way you can progress in your feelings and your readiness. He sounds like a great guy if he says he will wait. My boyfriend did, and we have been married now for 31 years.
2007-01-27 15:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All guys say that they are patient until that time comes when another female offers him what you not giving him. If you say you love this man then what is the problem. If this man is good to you then letting loose should not be a problem. I was in the same way about 6 months ago. My man said the same thing. We have been dating for 2yrs and we finally made love and it was great! He waited on me just because he loved me. He didn't rush me or had he ever cheated on me that I know of! He was patient smooth and loved me the way a man is suppose to love a woman. Now I know the true meaning of MAKING LOVE! So if your man is willing to wait and you know that you are not ready then test him and see how long he waits. I don't think you should do anything that you are not ready for. If you are young you still have time. When you are ready trust me you will know. Please be wise and protect yourself at all times. I stress this alot to the young girls. It is to much out here and you don't know what is going on with your partner or how many partners he had before you. Please love yourself. If he don't want to strap up then you don't need him. Always take precautions but the best precation is abstinence!
2007-01-27 16:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by doodie315 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset too. I've done everything with my girlfriend of 5 years except oral sex until a couple weeks ago. She willed her way into it and after a few minutes seemed to embrace and enjoy it (as did I). Don't view intimacy as a dirty or sinful thing. If you have strong feelings for the guy then just go for it. Most likely you'll like it even though you're scared now.
2007-01-27 15:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by Adam C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be a lot of things, that make you feel that way, but it sound
like you just are not ready to make the steps, and that ok
love is something that grow with time just like any thing else
when you ready to you will. just take it slow and then see how
it goes, i mean it could be more then just what in hyourhead
you may need to talk to someone about your feeling as well.
2007-01-27 15:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably gets frustrated because guys have SEX ON THE BRAIN 24/7. It sounds like you're not ready. Just take a step back and allow yourself to re-group. Don't get pressured because you know he wants to go to the next step. If he really cares for you, he''ll wait. If he doesn't,it's his loss.
2007-01-27 15:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont take this the wrong way but were you abused in ANY way as a child??? I was and it took me a long time to touch my man...take it at your own pace and if he doesnt like it move along...
2007-01-27 15:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not ready, don't do it. talk to him like a grown up, and either he can live with it or he can't, if he can't then you don't need him.
2007-01-27 15:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way with my girlfriend.I don't understand it either.
2007-01-27 15:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by Matty G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be secretly seeing someone else.
2007-01-27 15:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word: COUNSELING.
2007-01-27 15:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by enjoy life, u only get one try. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋