Drug addiction rehab?

Question

My father is addicted to pain medication, and adavan, on top of that, he is also an alcoholic, he is now in his worst shape ever.
My brothers and I do not know what to do, he does not want to be help, he is a big problem for all of us and our families, I was wondering if anyone knows of a place where we can take him and keep him as an inpatient, we have some savings and can afford a reasonable monthly amount.
help!!!!!

We live in Los Angeles California.

Answer 1

check into your public and human services see if they can help usually they will help you i hope everything works out for you and i hope your dad gets better its going to be a long hard road but hopefully you will all get through it

Answer 2

I am sorry to read of your father's condition, but sweetie, there is really nothing that you or your family can do until he wants the help. If it's a medically required inpatient treatment, then he can get the help. If it's a legal pending issue, then he must get the help. But he is a grown man. The question is:

How can you get a grown man, who is cognizant and in denial of his addictions, help for his addictions?

Mentally, he is capable of making his own decision, perhaps try getting him to attend some AA, or NA meetings, where you all go with him and participate in what is discussed. If your family is religious or a part of a church, usually through that church you all can seek assistance from a pastor/priest, who can come to your home and communicate with your Father(essentially counsel him). Other than that, you can research sources of places that offer inpatient and find out what rights you all have in terms of trying to get your father help. The unfortunate thing sweetie, it's truly your Father's choice. Good luck and be Safe...(smiles)

Answer 3

Well I do want to warn you about one thing. Have you ever seen or heard about police cells and jails in South Africa? You get raped the first night by about 20 guys. One after the other. Our jails and holdings cells are extremely overcrowded, I think there are supposed to be 8 guys to a cell and they, because of overcrowding, put about 20 to 30 in a cell. The worst is the awaiting trial cells. And they like their boys to be young and squealing when they have their fun with him. So come to SA and smoke some weed if you really are brave enough. But then you must face the consequences, you will be arrested, put in jail await your trial for about 8 months, the case will probably be postponed for another year or so. And we do not look kindly on British tourist criminals especially because a British tourist arsonist burnt our beautiful Table Mountain down. So you are very welcome here but smoking Dagga here is a crime.

Answer 4

The problem is that even if you take him to rehab, he has got to want to get better himself. If he wants to get some help, rehab is good, but he MUST get into a program and attend twelve step meetings every week to stay on top of it. This sickness cannot be cured by a stint in rehab. It takes a lifelong committment of wanting to get better. I suggest that you and your brothers attend an AL-Anon meeting to get the help the you need to deal with him. His sickness is controlling you, your brothers, and your family. If he doesn't want the help, you guys go and get direction on how to deal with him and GET your lives back.

Answer 5

The biggest issue you will have is that you cannot force him to "sign in" to a program.

If a physician will commit/involuntarily hospitalize him on a psychiatric unit, then he will have no choice.

You should seek the advice and counsel of a rehabilitation counselor and/or psychiatrist. They can help you set up an intervention where your entire family pushes for him to get treatment.

Good luck!

Answer 6

sorry to hear of the pain you are experiencing...

the most important thing you need to realize right now is that no one but your father can decide when he is ready for help... he has to make that first step and admit that he has a problem... he has to want to turn his life and his will over and admit that he is powerless...

right now, it does not sound like he is ready...

you can try putting him in a rehab... but, as someone else stated, he will most likely relapse shortly after discharge...

i suggest you attend an alanon meeting... it's for family members of alcoholics and addicts... there, you can find information you need to cope with what you are dealing...

i wish you all the best...

Answer 7

sign him in a rehab. But first understand something, if a addict doesn't want help then when they get out 99% chance they will go back to the same life style

Answer 8

yeah. find a treatment facility in your area. Schedual and appt. for a dependant evaluation. He has to be evaluated first and then they will determine whether he is eligable for in patient or not. (it sounds like he is) They'll help you from there. The evaluation is going to cost money, but they can find programs that will help fund your family.

I hope things work out for you all.

Answer 9

hey, i have a similar problem.....my dad got caught with crack, and he had to go to probation....well he was cool and he was great nothing was really wrong with him...except he was lazy...lmfao...and he didn't go to probation....the police arrested him and he was lucky enough to go on probation again...well he was doing great until he got the results from the first week..he did drugs...so now he is in a rehab for 90 days....it'll be better for him there....if ur father lives in houston..my dad goes to north san jacinto....look it up...good luck to you and ur family..i wish you the best...i am going through it right now....but i know it is for the best.

Answer 10

Go to this website and submit your info, they will help you.

http://www.aetv.com/intervention/participate/index.jsp

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles and hope your father gets the help he needs! Best of luck.