Ok, this guy,he's kind of a geek at school, but I'm desperate, and this guy is kind of sweet, but I'm desperate, and I just asked him if he liked me, and he said yes, and so we're like a thing now, but now I am having regrets, because what if some other guys that I previously liked, really did like me. I'm just so confused. I'm only really desperate for a boyfriend, because everyone at school has a boyfriend and I don't but this guy is kind of u know nice what should I do?
2007-01-27 14:50:00 · 11 answers · asked by ktluvaxx♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok i am not "using him" and let me rephraze, I'm not desperate to be accepted, or to have a boy-friend, im new and never had a previous boyfriend, yes I like this guy, he is nice, and stuff, he says he likes me, im just not sure, because I am like taller than him, and we are both still young, and i just dont know
2007-01-27 15:29:31 · update #1
ok other details, i am friends with him , so its not about not being friends with, ive been friends with him for like 6 years, found out enough about him
ok, and i like him , but i just dont know, thats the point of the question
2007-01-27 16:29:41 · update #2
You shouldnt care.....even if hes a geek hes sweet and stuff so.......its ok......you both like each other and nothing should get in the way of that.......
2007-01-27 14:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by aznsmartie4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should never be desperate. Let things happen. If you like this guy, then go for it. Who cares what people think. It's about you and what you think. And don't think about what could have been with some other guys. If it doesn't work out with the "geek", then something else will come your way eventually. Just be yourself, and don't think you NEED a boyfriend. Only do something if it feels right.
2007-01-27 14:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Beachman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling yourself desprate,its more like desprate to be excepted,not desperate to be with someone. Peer pressure isn't a reason to get into a relationship,especially if you are ready for it,emotionally,or what seems in your case,maturity wise.
Wise up,not everyone is going to have a girlfriend or boyfriend at school,and if you truly desired a relationship that meant something,you wouldn't catagorize yourself as "desprate". If you truly like this guy,become his friend first. Friendship is a key role in a relationship. What's the point of just going out with someone and then discovering things out? Friends first,other things later. Don't confuse yourself with the past,because if something is in the here and now,don't think about people that COULD have liked you,that you don't know like you NOW.
2007-01-27 14:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your key pharse was "i'm desperate" you should never enter into a relationship in that mind set. Now you are in a situation where you are with a guy who you did not like and now that the other prospects have opened up for you you want to be with them instead. You need to get out of your current relationship. Let him know that this is not working out for you and that you would prefer to only be friends. And then you are free to go after the guys you really want. Expect him to be angry and hurt. Unfortunately, there is no easy way for you to do this though. It's like taing off a band aid at this point sometimes you need to rip it off and feel the sharp sting for a little while. But trust me it goes away really fast.
2007-01-27 14:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Johnathan L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel bad because you are using him. How would you feel if you were in his shoes? You cannot be *that* desperate. I have a feeling you know exactly what you will do if a better guy comes along...what every other HS girl would do. Dump him.
That is the sucky part of growing up. You live and learn (hopefully) from the choices you make. But chose wisely, next time, you don't sound like you should be desperate, so aim high!
2007-01-27 14:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by taylorvoltaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There ain't nothing attractive about a desperate woman. You are obviously young and immature. It's just silly to be in a relationship with someone who you aren't even attracted to just because everyone else is in one. Not to mention totally unfair to him! How would you feel if a guy you really liked asked you out, but then you found out that he wasn't really that interested in you, but just felt desperate? I bet you'd feel real crappy. Seriously. Don't use people.
2007-01-27 15:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by pisceswoman87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you really shoulve asked your previous boy about your feeling b4 u asked da geek at skool! Anyways If ur not sure have a talk with ur current bf. You said he's nice and sweet right? Then he will understand you im pretty sure. Tell him everything what's wrong and maybe he will let you talk to ur otha boy and if he says yes....you have to make a tough decisions.
i hpe it helped
2007-01-27 14:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by -BaByLiCiOuS- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be nice to this guy, desperate or not, you should now think about how you are using this guy, and he doesn't have an idea you are. I feel for him he is going to a broken heart and he does not deserve it. '
Learn to love yourself and find out what you really are. Stop and think of others feelings.
2007-01-27 14:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I f you're not secure in being alone you'll never be secure in a relationship. You shouldn't pick a boyfriend just for the sake of having a boy friend. In doing that you'r showing no respect to yourself or the boy.
2007-01-27 14:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by gary m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nice isn't everything. If you want to stay with this geeky guy, go ahead. If you really believe previous crushes have a crush on you go to and hunt the down. Your choice, not mine!
2007-01-27 14:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋