My girlfriend keeps telling me she is ready to have sex, i am ready to, we have been dating for a long time now, and we just started talking about it recently.
So we bought the protection, but when ever i try somthing to have sex with her, she always says no, and its when ever i go for her pants. Is she embarresssed about somthing? she said its because she wears a thong, but i dont see why she would be embarresed.
Could she be hiding somthing???
The thing is, she is the one who came to me and told me she was ready to have sex, and i was too, but every time i see her, she gets me ready for it, like kisses my neck, u know, she turns me on, but then i get her shirt off, and then its those pants, when i go for them she tells me no.What should i do???
2007-01-27 14:45:09 · 22 answers · asked by what ever you want it to be 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good things come to people who wait. She says she is ready, but she may not be. I dont know if you two are virgins or not but you can only loose that once, and she just wants to make sure that you are the right guy to take it. Dont rush her, it will make her feel even more uncomfortable. I know it is a big tease, but she is just being cautious, it isnt against you.
I also dont know how old you two are either, maybe she got a tattoo of something really embarrassing and she really needs to make sure she can trust you to see it.
But as I said, dont rush her. If you are ready now, you will be ready when she is ready for herself.
2007-01-27 14:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by traveling_soldier6784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she's serious and it's actually the thong, then she isn't ready to show you and give you all of her body. Sex comes with a lot of feelings...maybe she knows she isn't ready but yet she doesn't want you to leave her. OR if it's her first time, she's as nervous as hell. Of course everyone wants sex and if their a virgin, they want to know what it's like...but can you blame someone for getting a little nervous when you're about to share the most special thing you can share? Tell her if she's scared, you don't have to do it...that will mean a lot to her if the case actually is that she's scared. Girls like understanding guys, maybe you should ask her if everythings ok. Tell her that you really care about her and you're willing to wait until she's ready...well that is if you really care for her and her feelings.
2007-01-27 22:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you've been dating a long time. Well, I'm wondering how long is that? Six months, a year, 2 years??? Obviously not long enough for her to want to actually go through with it. As long as she hesitates, I say back off and keep giving her more time. Maybe she is insecure and thinks mentioning sex is the only way to keep you as a boyfriend. How old is she? That is also a factor. If you love and appreciate her for just who she is, then wait on the sex until it's a definite GO.
2007-01-27 22:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a long talk with her. Look in her eyes and ask her if something is wrong. If she's embarrased to talk comfort her. Say something like 'we've been dating for a long time you can tell me anything ' and maybe she will tell you what she's hiding. A thong....im a girl and i would be embarrased too. So you have to understand girls feelings.
Maybe she's ready but not ready for the bottom part...maybe thogh...
2007-01-27 22:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by -BaByLiCiOuS- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really really does want to have sex, but she is very scared as well. She has the desire, but since it seems like she is still a virgin, she has never really been naked in front of a man. She might also be worried that it will be painful for her. Try to be patient and supportive and take things slowly. Be very understanding and eventually she will get there.
Good Luck!!
2007-01-28 02:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by KB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's not as ready as she thinks she is. Try not to rush her. It's best if you sit with her and talk about this. Ask her what's wrong and how you can help to make her feel comfortable. Hope that helps. Take care.
2007-01-27 22:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by Dominic John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's clearly not ready. Just try to avoid those situations for awhile, focus on other aspects of the relationship. You'll know when the time's right.
2007-01-27 22:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an honest discussion with her about why she is giving you completely mixed signals. And if she's not ready for sex but wanted to be just for you, certainly don't force it, she'll resent you later.
2007-01-27 22:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she pulls back when you go for it. She may be ashamed of her kitty cat not pleasing you, being too bushy, big, small, painful, smelly, weird looking. Have her give you many blowj***, and when she is tired of getting you off, she will beg you to take her pants off. Good luck.
2007-01-27 22:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by RunsWithKnife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really might just be scared she might have told you she was ready just because she thought that was what you wanted to hear
2007-01-27 22:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by steffi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋