Well she's had a problem with it for a little while and last night I had to talk to her for 4 hours convincing her not to do it and finally I told her if you die than I die tonight and she said she'd stay here so she's okay now but I don't know what to do. What if one day she decides to do it again and I'm not there to help her?
2007-01-27 14:33:59 · 14 answers · asked by Patrick S 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi Patrick; Registered Nurse Here; Your Girlfriend has a major psychological problem. She needs professional help, from a psychiatrist or psychologist, please don't be offended, but she is being somewhat selfish to put another that she is suppose to love as she does you through hell. Your a true friend and lover to this girlfriend. But don't baby her, obviously your the sane one here. Insist she seek treatment, make a condition without treatment your moving on. This may sound cold and cruel, however it's not intended in that manner what so ever. It's called tough love, and spending 4 hours on the telephone, this is also a sort of manipulation on her part. Again not being cruel, but if she truly wanted help she would be asking you to help find her the proper mental health facility that could actually assist in clearing her mind of suicide. Weather she is serious or not, she has placed a SOS call to you, now you should contact her parents, or call 911 and tell them. But do something constructive, you are out of your league here, and even mental health professionals are challenged by someone with this degree of depression.
2007-01-27 14:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by Strawberry Pony 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to talk her into getting some help for this , cause you are right, one day you may not be there to stop her, or she may get feeling like a burden, and get so she can do it no matter who is trying to keep her alive. Cause she will start distaning herself from you and others, so she can commit suicide, i know cause i have been there too, and i have committed it too many times in my life. I am just lucky i guess to be here today, and to be helping others. So please get your girlfriend some help, cause somewhere in her, she has some real issues that may have been stuffed, or buried for years, and everyonce in a while they come out, and they may start coming out more and more. So talk to her, and stand by her, that is the best that you can do for her, cause when you do not stand by her, she will feel even worse, so she will try to do it , or just do it without anyone even knowing. So be cariful and see if you can not get her to go and get some help from a professional for this problem and to work on the issues that are causing it.
2007-01-27 14:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN....no joke...YOU call her parents, someone other than you needs to be involved in this. She deserves to have you care enough not to be responsible for her life or death!!! You deserve better than to be sworn to secrecy, if that is what she has done. You can't be in that position!!! No...call her sister, mom, whomever, if no one else, call local mental health place or even 911. I don't know how old you guys are, but talk of suicide, I KNOW THIS BY EXPERIENCE, cannot be placated or pacified or made go away simply by talking someone "down" for a while. I am 49 yrs old and listened to a friend threaten to kill herself because her husband was leaving her for another woman. As many of us do, we think, "Oh, they're just talking, letting off steam." My friend, Myrt, is dead. Her high school daughter found her mom at home, DEAD! Please do something..please!! You will never regret making that choice, but believe me, you WILL regret makiing the wrong one. GOOD LUCK, honey.
2007-01-27 14:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by lookn_4_laffs 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other folk's general opinion - you are in way over your head here!!!! This is a secret that is morally wrong to keep. You need to tell her parents. She may feel betrayed in the short run, but in the long run, you may have saved her life.
I reiterate. It is wrong not to tell her parents. You must call them immediately. It is a medical emergency, very urgent. She needs professional help.
2007-01-27 15:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should notify someone right away. Once a facility reformed her she would be very thankful and might even be glad you saved her life :) On the other hand don't do anything. The worst feeling in life is guilt!
2007-01-27 14:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by Justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but if you think she is serious you need to call her parents now!!!!! If you dont think they can do anything then call the police or 911 or something because she needs help. If you are with her now then try to get her to go to counseling or therepy or something. If you seriously think that she will kill herself and you arnt with her then call the police or a hospital and they will help you find a way to help her.
2007-01-27 14:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by prettygirl_angel2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People say suicide is selfish and cowardly. That's bullshit. It's more selfish to expect someone to go through life feeling like ****, just so you can keep them around because they make you happy or some ****. It is not they're duty to keep you happy whilst they go through hell, you ******* morons.
Someone decided their live was no longer living, so when they killed themselves, all the sensible people who loved them felt very sad, but realised that it would be selfish to expect them to go on living, just for their own pleasure.
2007-01-27 14:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by tiracs69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you care for her as much as you say- you will contact her parents and let them know ... you (alone) cannot and will not be able to help her if she is suicidal ....she needs professional help!......
not to mention.....can you imagine the guilt you would have for the rest of your life - if she ever did do something and you neglected to @ least give her family a chance to get her the help that could possibly save her life!
2007-01-27 14:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you love her very much and you won't be able to live without her. Always make sure you're there for her when she needs you, but don't nag her about it constantly. Also, I would try to get her to go to a counselor or therapist to help her overcome this. You could also tell her parents if you're comfortable.
2007-01-27 14:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to get her some counseling. Have her talk to her doctor abt her obvious depression. Its not up to u to "cure" her or to solve this problem for her, but try to get her the professional help she needs.
2007-01-27 14:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by darjeeling_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋