2007-01-27 14:29:35 · 21 answers · asked by jessie_ann2 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would have to think about what is going to be better for the child in the long run. If you aren't happy your children will be able to tell and it will affect them negitivly in the long run. Growing up I could tell that my mother wasn't happy. I knew it wasn't me or my brother that was causing this unhappiness, but something just wasn't right. When I was ten my parents got a divorce, and though for a few months it was rough, once I saw how happy both my parents were when they were seperate I understoon. It made me feel better knowing that both my parents were happy, and that made me and my younger brother happy. Now, I know not every situation is as clear cut as that. You may not even be married. On one hand that makes seperating a lot easier (no this is mine and that is yours), but on the other hand both parents have a right to raise and be a part of their childs life if they so desire (unless the courts say other wise). Just think of what you want and think of your child. Talk to someone. It'll work out.
2007-01-27 14:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by TerreriX652 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that were the only reason? No.
Having a child with someone would make me want to try harder to fix the relationship, since you don't really have the option of giving up on things easily. If I the problems were serious enough or if that connection was lost and all our efforts couldn't bring it back then I would move on. The child would still be raised by both of us and would recieve just as much love but in two separate homes.
2007-01-27 14:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship was having problems (abuse, drugs, etc.) ,and you're unhappy then ,no, I wouldn't stay with someone just because I have a child with them. It's not fair to you or your child to stay with that person. The best thing for everyone is to get out on your own and move on with your life. In the long run everyone will be a lot happier.
However, on the other hand, if the relationship is loving and happy then ,yes, I would definitely stay with that person.
2007-01-27 14:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Tweety Gurl*~ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! No matter difficult the relationship with the spouse, the happiness of the child is worth every ounce of pain. I would even practice affection towards the evil spouse until it became real again (it CAN be done). I would do this because I can't stand the thought of one of those cute little critters looking up to the sky and saying to God: "why don't my mommy and daddy love each other?"
That would be unbearably sad.
2007-01-27 15:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by Zeek 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If I wanted to be with that person then ofcourse! If that person was abusive and a threat to me or my child, definately not!! If My relationship was strained due to whatever was going on in my head, but my partner was a good person who loved and cared for me and our child then I would sort myself out and make it work, same goes for if it were my partner having doubts. I would always fight for my family. I am a Mother of two and with one in four marraiges ending in divorce i think keeping my family together is extremely important.
2007-01-27 14:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not if I wasn't happy. Because when you are not happy, you can't be the best mother you can be. You'd be depressed, and even if you didn't show it, the child would know. Not to mention if you argued in front of the child, that's not good either. I think if you're unhappy, move on with your life, and it will make you and your child much happier. :-)
2007-01-27 14:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by It's a secret... 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I almost did. It would have been the worst mistake of my life. I felt ashamed, and I almost even married him(even though I didn't love him and actually hated him most of the time). I kept pushing the wedding back, I just couldn't bring myself to do it knowing I don't believe in divorce in most cases. I'm so glad I never did, and eventually left the relationship to find the one I was meant for.
2007-01-27 15:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That reason alone is not reason enough. The decision has to be based on more important things, like the well-being of the child (and the parents).
2007-01-27 14:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by tizzoseddy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope. The way i think is that it may make things even worse for the kid seeing fighting and stressed out parents all the time.but i would try every kind of counseling and try to do the best i could to make it work.
2007-01-27 16:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. If He takes good care of you and the baby. He also respects you as a human. He loves you...He takes the responsibilities of you and the child. Why not?
2007-01-27 14:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Diah 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋