and why? =)
2007-01-27 14:18:38 · 22 answers · asked by Lvgrl23 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't think the age matters as much as the state of your life. I waited until I had completed college, established a career, met the right person and got married. As long as you know what's important to you and feel ready to properly take care of a child, you are old enough.
- Amy
2007-01-27 14:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong age. I was 18 when I had my first child. I got married at age 21, to the father of my son. We knew we wanted to get married, but we did not want to rush into it. That and we didn't want people assuming we only got married because we had a child. I think it is the right age to get married or to have a child when you know its the right time. For one person that may be 18, the next person it might be 30. We are all different, so it all depends on the person.
2007-01-27 14:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion the best time to marry is when you have met the person you are prepared to spent the rest of your life with, you are at least both heading toward financial security and he wants to be with you too. As for having a child? That is a tough question. I guess I would say the best time is while you are still fertile. (in your 20's). I had my first a 21, although she was a surprise I married her Dad we had our second child when i was 23 and I would not have it anyway. It was hard, being this age with a family. We found it difficult to meet other couples our age that also had children and found some of our friends with out children just did not understand our situation. We have not travelled alot, but we do own a home and I will only be 42 when my youngest turns 18. I have one friend who is 37, she married 4 years ago. They put off starting a family to buy a house, then delayed trying to conceive to take a big holiday, etc. She is now in the early stages of IVF and has been told that her lack of fertility is purely due to her age. As a woman grows older her fertility lessens taking a significant dive at about 30yrs and again at 35yrs. Not only does fertility decline, but the quality of your eggs also reduces. There are alot of factors that have to be considered, and depending on a persons individual circumstances I would say the best age to marry and have a child is between 22 and 28
2007-01-27 14:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your 20s are a time to establish yourself, personally and financially. I still remember being madly in love at 18, and someone told me "the person you would marry at 18 is not the person you would marry at 25." That was fabulous advice--which I realized at about age 25, and thankfully I was not still attached to the guy from 18 years old. The qualities I looked for in a partner and spouse changed so much in that short period of time.
I had time to be that girl in college who has her whole life in front of her. I enjoyed the college experience, then got out on my own.
Once I was married, we waited 3 years to have our first child. The first year of marriage is especially tough, so I would recommend waiting until that is over before getting pregnant.
Regardless of the AGE the two people are I think it is still important for people to discuss their life expectations. How many kids? Will someone stay home? City life or country life? What age do people want to retire? What are spending habits of the people? Religion? and more...
2007-01-27 15:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no best time to get married or have children. The time is right when you are truely happy with your life, and if you wait until the best time. THE CHANCES ARE YOU WILL BE WAITING YOUR WHOLE LIFE! Life is to short and you never know what will happen tomo, so you make the most of each day, children are a total blessing and make you happy beyond anything else. (even if they do make you sad or mad at times)SOME ppl dont get to make choices when they can have kids, ive had 7miscarraiges (im 30) and i have 3 lovely kids aged 10,6, 4! my husband and i have been together since i was 13 and we only got married last year in november. we have done everything backwards, had kids, built house, started a business, got married. and honestly I WOULD NOT DO IT ANY OTHER WAY! you need to deal with things as they arrive! THERE IS NO RIGHT TIME !
2007-01-27 14:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by hungem76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been together since ages 16 and 21. We got married at 21 and 26 and had our first child when I was 22.
2007-01-27 14:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by ξανξπξ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when i was 19 and my husband was 26. I am 12 weeks pregnant and now 21 and my husband is 29. Its right to get married when you find someone you love with all your heart and it is right to have a child when you will not feel as though you are missing out on being young. Good luck!
2007-01-27 14:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally Think Around Age (25) Because You Are more Reponsable To Take Care Of A Child And Your Husband / Wife
2007-01-27 14:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion: it is best to wait until you are 28 or older to get married!! And it is best to wait until you are married at least 5 years to have a child: stability!!
2007-01-29 11:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by ilovepoison2820 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a generalization, I would say by the time you finish undergrad school. So you're probably around 22-25. That would be the lower limit. The upper limit for marriage is the day you die...the upper age for having kids is about 35-40.
2007-01-27 15:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋