Earlier, I posted a question about me constantly lying and wanting negative things. I decided I should maybe tell my Mom, so I did. But I told her about the lying and she just said it was normal for teens to try and impress their friends and that everyone lies. What I didn't tell her about was about me wanted negative things (drug addiction, teen pregnancy, alcoholism..etc) You may say that because I think something is wrong that nothing is wrong. But why would I want these things to happen? I'm worried that if I tell her about wanting negative things then she'll just think I'm doing it to just go to a doctor and get diagnosed with something, which I'm not.
2007-01-27 14:11:51 · 18 answers · asked by baileyboo45 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Romanticizing problems and addictions is normal in the teenage years. Acting on them is not normal. When you cross the line and act on these feelings, it is definitely time to seek help and support.
All the best to you.
2007-01-27 14:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is not normal to want those negitive things, and if you do not go and get some help, you may just find that you are going to end up doing some of those negitive things, and let me tell you , that is not the road that you want to go on. So if you can not tell your mother, who i think had a weird reaction to you telling her you lie all the time, then you can go into an er, or mental health, and ask to be seen by someone, and explain to them why, and since it is the weekend again, you can also call a crisis line, and have them hook you up with a therapist for your age, and they will talk to you, and can make arrangements for you to see someone for that. Since you are not working you proably would not have to pay a thing, and your mother may not need to know til you are ready to tell her. Be safe , and give the crisis line in your area a call if you need to talk cause they will listen to you, and try to help you, or get you the help you need.
2007-01-27 14:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just want more of her attention? That's not a bad thing to want her attention, but since you can't seem to get it simply by wanting it or even asking for it, maybe your mind has helped you devise a 'plan' to get it, because when it's a serious problem that would harm your mother's image, maybe she'll pay attention.
Kind of like when a person doesn't drink enough water, and even being dry mouthed doesn't work, the mind makes the body hungry, so that it can get some kind of hydration.
I'm not saying that's what it is, I'm just giving a possibility why you may be wanting to make bad choices.
2007-01-27 14:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I am praying for you. It sounds to me like you are looking for any kind of attention you can get, even if it is negative. I have a daughter that is just like that. She is the middle child and I think that might have a lot to do with it. Sometimes it seems like she does bad things just for the attention. I don't think you really want to do BAD things. It sounds like you are trying to get someone to notice you. Maybe mom or dad. It seems to me that you are young. My kids are 21, 16 and 10. My 16 yr old always seems to get lost in the shuffle. Just remember that no matter how busy your parents are, and no matter how much they seem like they are not paying attention they love you. Sometimes we let things like bills and jobs and everything else get in t he way. But no matter what you are not alone. You need to tell your mom or dad or an aunt how you feel. It sounds to me like loneliness. Good Luck to you.
2007-01-27 14:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but there is a sort of mind sickness that basically makes people crave attention in whatever way possible. At least right now you know these things are bad and you (hopefully) haven't done any of them yet. I mean, some parents, because they have this sickness, MAKE their child sick just to get attention from it. As long as you don't do these things and you resist the pressure you should be alright but if you start to give in see someone about it.
2007-01-27 14:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by The FudgeMaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself why you want these things. It may be because of something that's happening in your life. Everyone has thought about these things at one time or another, but if you want them all the time, you really should talk to someone. You don't want to end up in a position that you'll later regret.
2007-01-27 14:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just self destructive. It sounds like your life must be pretty good if your wishing for bad things to happen. People who have bad hard lives cant wait for good things to start happening. I think your just being a selfish little brat that feels like nobody is noticing her. Get it together! Life is difficult enough without you sabotaging it! You need professional help and since your mom is brushing you off then you have to find someone who is going to listen to you.
2007-01-27 14:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Topaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of sounds like you have the "Bad Girl Syndrome" ...
It is like you know it is bad but you are intrigued by it ... and ... you hear that others do it and they seem alright ... why not you?
but it is not a good thing ... you need to talk to someone ... a friend, an aunt, or someone you really trust ... but I would suggest your Mom. If you are open and honest with her ... then she will be with you also ...
Don't let it mess up your life ... Get some help ...
babies cost more than money ...
drugs can mess you up for life ...
don't let curiosity kill you!!!
God Bless ... and Good Luck!!!!!
2007-01-27 14:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you want the negative things because you (subconsciously) want attention. You think that if you become pregnant or an alcoholic whoever you want attention from (family, friends, boyfriend, etc.) will give more of their attention to you rather that other things.
2007-01-27 14:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by brewergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to get diagnosed by a doctor to help sort out your thoughts and feelings. Your Mom doesn't understand. Make an appointment with a Psychologist, and if she won't bring you, ask someone else. You're gonna have to stand up for yourself on this one. Good luck!
2007-01-27 14:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like a ploy to get attention. Some people crave attention even if it is negative attention. You lie about these things so that people will notice you or talk about you. You might not get enough attention at home, from friends, or you just want attention. You might need some type of medication.....you might need to just talk to someone like a therapist and he/she can help you. Good Luck!
2007-01-27 14:22:41 · answer #11 · answered by ~♥Aimee♥~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋