Shouldn't it be from the heart? Not the room to through a bridal shower? The closeness you have. And if you choice not be in the wedding because you were first choosen to be the maid of honor and are being replaced because shower, isn't being no longer friends horrible? How would you feel if you were told to switch to a bride'smaid because of the shower?
2007-01-27 14:03:02 · 13 answers · asked by Artsy 1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Picking the mad of honor usually based upon a close bond. But the maid of honor also has to be prepared to take on many responsibilities, such as the bridal shower.
2007-01-27 14:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person!! If it matters where you are in the wedding and not being there for someone you love than it may be an issue!! Not belittle the hurt of being step down for such a small thing but being the bigger person and be there for her. Sometimes as friend we have to overlook the Bridizlla moment that she is having and you should you this as key!! If you can erase this one moment in your friendship out, would you still be her friend and if the answer is yes!! Be the best bridesmaid and have a good time at the shower and you will always use this experience to keep you grounded and you will never treat someone else the way you were treated.
2007-01-27 14:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I married the first time, I chose my best friend who lived in another state. I did not have a bridal shower and it left no ill effects on me. The choice for a maid of honor should be based upon feelings of closeness, not geography. This next time I marry I will have my 14 year old daughter stand up for me. I do not expect a bridal shower. It is an HONOR for someone to stand up for you at your nuptials. It should not be based upon who is the best connected hostess who can get you the most loot and attention.
2007-01-27 14:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by hollyq330 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married in less than 2 months. I have one younger sister who is the maid of honor. I would have chosen many other friends over my sister but still, I think that putting the bond of blood on a pedestal and everyone else a close 2nd is the best choice. 2 friends have been wanting to throw me a bridal shower. Your true friends will come through for you.
If it's between blood and friend, choose your blood. Let your friends come through for you. Mine did :) And I love my sis....
Listen to your heart. Mine said, my sis is my sis and all else will be 2nd. Who can argue with that? Does choosing my sis prevent me from having a bridal shower? NO!!!
Now, if it's between friends, choose a friend who's been there for you, a true friend...
I'm not denying that it's not a hard situation...it is...
2007-01-27 14:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to pick the girl you're closest to now. Lots of times childhood friends grow into adults that aren't necessarily the same degree of closeness, and that may be what's happening with the first girl. And 14 is too young. Also, I don't think it ever makes sense to have two MOH. It's not bad etiquette or anything, but it seems pointless. You might as well not have one at all! The position was created for one person.
2016-05-24 07:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would chose by thinking ahead ten years...are you still going to be close to this person? are they a long time friend? I guess it depends what matters most to you, but I think that it should be someone that you care about a lot. It is supposed to be an honor, not a contest who can throw the best shower or bachlorette party. All of your bridesmaids collectively are supposed to do that stuff anyway.
2007-01-27 14:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You choose your maid of honor based on your closeness to them I knew when I chose mine that she was doing traveling nursing and may not be able to do all of the showers and everything else that most moh's do. I didn't worry about that, though, I just knew I wanted her to be the person next to me. I also knew that I wanted my sister to be my matron, and she stepped up to help with the moh's responsibilites! My moh attended as much as she could, but wasn't able to be at everything, I was ok with that! I knew it when I chose her! It is up to you to decide what you chose your moh for! Was it for the things she would do for your event, or because she was the closest person to you! Don't let trivial things ruin a friendship, it isn't worth it!
Good luck!
2007-01-27 14:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the person you care about the most. It doesn't have to be the person you've known the longest or anything. Choose someone who will cherish the honor, and someone you can trust and see your self looking back with and enjoying every min. of the day and day's leading up to the event!
2007-01-31 07:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by Andi S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine was totally from the heart. It wasn't because of who could help, etc. because she lives really far away, and only came the night before the wedding. But she was the one I wanted standing up first for me, and being the chief witness.
2007-01-28 00:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I picked mine because she was the main support system for me when me and my husband were dating. I picked her because she knew both of us inside and out, she knew how to calm me down, and how to help me tell him how I felt.
I would say, pick someone that knows you inside and out (and preferably a little bit about the hubby too). Someone you know that would rather see you have a wonderful wedding than worry about their own hair and make-up on your special day. Someone who would call the limo rental to check on times, make sure everything is on time and the way its supposed to be. Because on your wedding, you arent going to want to spend any time checking on where your food is, or is the cake here yet.......
congrats by the way :)
2007-01-27 19:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋