How can become more outgoing?

Question

I'm usually too afraid to talk to new people, especially guys... when I DO talk to them, I feel so proud and confident, but the next day I would be just as scared as before.

How can I become more outgoing?

Answer 1

Yes, it can be difficult. Every time you make the effort, try thinking of it like you are Re=Inventing yourself. Let the new you do things more daring. Start acting like the person you want to be instead of the person you used to be. After a while, you WILL be that person. Actions build characters. Keep doing what you're doing. Use your social muscles, and just like any other exercise, you will get stronger in it over time. And if you have a few awkward moments, oh well. We all do. Move on. Don't take it personally, and have fun.

Answer 2

Its a constant struggle all throughout some of our lives. Some prefer the challenges in life, others choose an easier path. Granted the bigger the challenge the bigger reward. Don`t do things you may later regret. Do things that you will be comfortable with later. Find a path that suites YOU the best. Comfortable is good but you may miss out on some incredible things unless you take a chance now and then. I hope this helps you.

Answer 3

Remember that you have nothing to loose, if things don't work out the way it was supposed to with new people, your life goes back to the way it use to be. If things do work out, then great for you! Feel confident in yourself and remember that the only person that can bring you down is you.

Answer 4

But you are! You just keep reminding yourself of how you felt at the time.
Believe, me I used to be the same way, and then one day it all came together, with my own confidence in myself. And it will show when you speak to people, and you will shine.

Answer 5

Take up a hobby - perhaps one that involves performance - that way you can get over your fear of talking to people.