HELP I've lost my motivation.?

Question

Ive lost my motivation to do anything. I just want to sit in my pjs around the house all day. and its been for a while now. I need some advise as to how i can pick my spirits back up. Ive always been a very motivated fun outgoing person. I dont know what to do. Thanks

I think that i am unhappy with myself i just cant find the motivation to exercise ive gained 30 lbs since i quit smoking a year ago. I will start to work out for like a week then i will just stop.

Answer 1

It may not be depression (I really hate labeling anything as "abnormal" or "diseased"), but simply your need to take a breather for a bit, get some rest and some perspective. But by the time you're freaking a little about it, it's a good time to slowly work your way back into things.

Some simple things to get started:
1. Even if you stay in your pjs all day, make sure that you shower, brush your teeth, and put on clean pjs and such. That little bit will feel so much better, and less isolating.
2. If you've let any household tasks go, make a point of doing 2 bouts of housework a day, at 10-15 minutes each. Do the same for any correspondence that has backlogged.
3. Do 15-20 minutes of exercise every morning. Just light, and just what feels good.
4. If you're just snacking or picking at food, commit to making yourself one full meal every other day or so. Lay out a place setting, as if you were at a restaurant.

As things start to feel a bit more normal, start getting dressed every day, even if you don't leave the house. And by dressed, I mean a good outfit you'd wear for work or shopping, nice hair style, jewelry, whatever you usually do. Then, make yourself go to something like a free concert or lecture. Make a point of smiling at people, or introducing yourself to a few people.

The more interaction you have, and the better you feel about yourself (in manageable steps), the easier it'll be to rejoin the world and get your energy back up. Just try not overwhelming yourself with too many changes at once, nor with bad thoughts. Stick to this schedule for two weeks, and see how it feels.

Answer 2

What has happened, a loss, or similar situation, to slow you down? Having the blues hits us all, but mild depression is at times painfully difficult to understand, and to have others understand why you feel as you do.
You could pick yourself up by planning on taking a walk, or doing some activity for 15 minutes, and then extending that. Or calling someone, and going to the mall, etc. Just moving! If that doesn't work, consider what is making you sad, or depressed. Then go to a doctor to talk about it. There are marvelous medications available, but the best thing at first is to try to be active, write down what you are doing to help yourself, and then go to the doctor with this information if your own help isn't getting you motivated. Stress is a huge factor in this circumstance, so learning how to deal with stress also helps. Find a buddy to walk with you, to call, and to help you out of this murky water. And then, again, if all else fails, please get help. It is not wrong to say "I need help." If you had diabetes, you would take insulin; if you are depressed, you also get help. Good luck.

Answer 3

The only motivation i would have in your position would be the knowlege that it could kill me to continue such eating habits.... perhaps you could find a snack that you enjoy that has barely any calories...or, at least has really good nutrients... for me, i snack on sunflower seeds constantly... but when you go to the grocery store, just don't buy so many bad foods...that way, when you're home, you can't eat them because they aren't there to tempt you. you should also start a journal or something... not only to express yourself, so you figure out what may be the cause of you wanting to eat so much, but also to count calories... and for a while don't set any specific intake levels...just figure out how much you're consuming...this will most likely cause you to eat a little less each day...or even a few days a week... and after a while, you're going to get control again...it's a really slow process, but i promise, after a few months, you'll put on a pair of old jeans and smile becuase there'll be a bit more room in them. just please help yourself before it's too late...food just isn't worth all of the health problems that come with long term obesity... i mean really think of it.. i wish you all the luck on your journey.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like you need to work on your self-esteem. Once that is accomplished I believe you will be 100% better. I'm not a psychologist, or psychiatrist, or social worker, or psychiatric nurse or anything like that, but I am fairly intelligent when it comes to these matters. Work on your self-esteem and I believe everything will be totally different. How do you do that? Positive thinking, positive words you say. Set very small goals and accomplish them and your self-esteem will increase. Maybe try writing some letters to friends of family to get your self-esteem up, or buy those self-help books entitled 'How To Increase Your Self-Esteem", or something like that. Maybe call a few people that like to say positive things about you. Heck, go to the library. They may have those audio tapes so you don't have to read all that stuff.

Answer 5

maybe you should find something to motivate you, I used to be the same and then I started working out now im on the computer around 2 hours a day on weekends, also don't you have school or college?

Answer 6

man, the same thing is happeneing to me... i mean, i wanna chill with my friends and all, but i just dont even want to call and stuff. there isn't really much advice one can give on the subject i'd say, but you should find something that you care dearly about and work from there.... if your single you may wanna find a girl/boyfriend.... that might help you to do something.

Answer 7

So many things could be happening. The hours of light, depression, even allergies....
I would start with my primary care physician to rule out any physical thing like maybe even anemia. Then go from there?

Until then? I would get as much sunshine as possible and listen to my favorite upbeat music....the songs that make you want to dance.....

Answer 8

Let me know when you find out. As for me, I will try to stay inside, away from vicious young females whom I have developed an extreme hatred towards. I can't even go outside for a jog without them ruining my mood!

Answer 9

Sounds like you are feeling depressed. Go and have a checkup.Go for a walk and get some exercise.

Answer 10

Sounds like you are very depressed. Get it together!!! Get active!!! Exercise is a great way to get out of a depression. You might need to see a doctor to get some medication for awhile til you get back up.