Would you be disgusted?

Question

A girl I was seeing invited me to her house for dinner for our second date. We had a nice dinner and couple glasses of wine, when it hit me.
The night before I had Chinese for dinner and Mexican for lunch the same day of the dinner. Through all the stomach rumblings, I just couldnt hold it anymore.
So I excused myself and asked to use her bathroom. Well to make a long story short, I did some major "damage" to her poor toilet. On top of that I guess she heard me in there and was disgusted by the sounds and the smell that was coming from the bathroom and asked me to leave.

I guess I wanna know, is completely rude? I mean just because of a natural body function I have to be the bad guy? I have tried to call and she won't return my phone calls... Should I just give up?

Answer 1

Yeah, give up on her. Maybe she was born without an anus, or maybe her excrement smells like apple pie, but the rest of us are human. You were not rude to use the facilities in her home, as I'm certain it was an emergency. This girl seems to think the world revolves around her, and OBVIOUSLY you can will yourself to move your bowels for the simple pleasure of disgusting her. I'm sure this was embarrassing for you. It wasn't as if you laughed about it or forced her into the room when you were done and locked her in. SHE was rude to draw attention to your predicament and to behave as though you could control the smell of your feces. What was she doing hanging out by the bathroom door anyway? This girl expects WAYY too much from you.

Answer 2

Yes,

The best thing to do would be for you to explain what happened and apologize for it. Yes, it was only natural, but you have to admit that the order was offensive. It may even been as offensive as to wreck her appetite. It is your fault, but if she accepts an apology then you know she is worth dating more. If not then move on to someone who is more realistic.

Your apology can be kind of joking, but I would make is short and sweet. "I had some Chinese food and some Mexican food that day and the combination just got to me. I am sorry that I inflicted the result on you and I will try not to do it again. Can we redo that dinner and I promise I won't eat any Mexican food that day." If that isn't enough for her then leave her.

Answer 3

Well she showed her true colors by the way she acted about it so would you really want someone like that? ;o( Sometimes one can not hold in something like that and I just hope after you left she had the same problem. Hopefully it will last for a week with her. ;o) I know it's mean to say but I think what she did was pretty rude too. Take care and find someone better. ;o)

Answer 4

Yea, unfortunatly. I would not be disgusted, It's a natural body function. Watch "Dumb and Dumber" an the fella who played Harry had the same thing happen to him after his "friend" put laxitive in his hot chocolate. it seems that she cannot forgive and forget, then it's best to move on. I am srry your date was ruined. She just couldn't handle it, she got offended. The next date you have just be sure what you had the nights before you get into the date.

Answer 5

Umm wow that's a hard one. It was gross- definitely takes away some of your appeal. But it IS a human function so she shouldn't just stop seeing you...

However, it was on the SECOND date- being as it was still at the "dream" and not the "reality" part of dating and you ruined it. If that would've happened at like the 5th or 6th date, it wouldn't have been as tantalizing.

She seems too...picky and critical. And I hate to say this but if she really did like you, that wouldn't have mattered to her as much as it apparently did so obviously the "relationship" wasn't so strong.

Just give up. She's not worth it. Move on- you'll find better.. :-)

Answer 6

Oh no, you poor guy. Well, that happens ... you can't control your body function. If you didn't break her toilet, then she should've been okay with you using -- I'm assuming that you unplugged it, right?

Anyway, she a superficial idiot. Forget all about her. Try to find a more down to earth type of girl ... who doesn't hide the fact that she "takes dumps" like everyone else.

And on that note, I must be excused ... hahahaha ;)

Hope this helps!

Now I really have to go!

Answer 7

that's horrible!! haha i hope u feel better! .. well if i was her.. i would've just made u lay down and like ask how u felt and tried to do anything to make u feel better... you can't do anything about it.. she's done this too and knows what it feels like, and how embarassed u must've felt. you're totally not the bad guy.. so don't think u did anything wrong.. she did. just leave a message on her phone and be like "i know u probably don't wanna hear from me.. but listen, it was all an accident! i was so embarassed and i couldn't help it! we've all gotten sick.. can u please just call me back so we can get this straightened out.. i miss you" .. or something like that.. that should win her over =] .. but if i were you.. i wouldn't even do that! only if u REALLY like her.. cuz it's just really not nice what she did.. it was unthoughtful and uncaring..

hope i helped! and good luck!
xox- jen

Answer 8

You might want to just chalk this one up as a loss and try not to place yourself in this situation again. For some people it can take time to feel comfortable around a person before they allow stuff like that to happen even though it is a natural function.

Answer 9

I think she is pretty grosssed out. Its not exactly an unmemorable event, not to mention the lingering smell. She will always associate that smell with you now. Too Bad. Give up on this one. But next time with your new girl, bring matches with you at all times. It kills all those nasty odors. Oh and while your sitting doing your business flush as you go, it helps cut the stink.

Answer 10

this is totally not fair to you! you can't control what your body does and you can't give up your favorites of food. if you honestly tried to clean up your mess after doing the "damage", then their should be no reason you should feel bad. it sounds liek you excused yourself pioletly and did what nature was calling you to do. if she can't get over the fact that it was not your fault, then she may not be a good enough girl for you. a girl who understands would most likely laugh about it with you! hope this helps!