My longtime boyfriend and I have discussed getting married for some time now. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and we are so happy together....just on problem, somehow he got on the topic of how he was going to have a hard time picking a best man and groomsmen because he has a lot of good friends and three brothers. This got me thinking about who I would pick, here's the problem, I don't have close friends really because I have a hard time getting close to people. I couldn't think of anyone that I am close enough to to ask them to be in my wedding party. Now I'm panicing and I can't stop worrying about the situation. I have no idea what to do, granted we aren't planning on getting married for a couple of years, still it's really bothering me! Any advice...........?
2007-01-27 12:52:02 · 10 answers · asked by Camille 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My longtime boyfriend and I have discussed getting married for some time now. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and we are so happy together....just on problem, somehow he got on the topic of how he was going to have a hard time picking a best man and groomsmen because he has a lot of good friends and three brothers. This got me thinking about who I would pick, here's the problem, I don't have close friends really because I have a hard time getting close to people. I couldn't think of anyone that I am close enough to to ask them to be in my wedding party. All my female family are much, much older and I only have a brother. Now I'm kinda panicing and I keep worrying about the situation. I have no idea what to do, granted we aren't planning on getting married for a couple of years, still it's really bothering me! Any advice...........?
2007-01-27 13:09:16 · update #1
It will be ok! In two years time, you have PLENTY of time to pick who you want in yor wedding. If by then you still haven't found anyone that you want, then explain this to your fiance and maybe it could be just the two of you and one other person, say your mom, a sister, etc. Then there is no need for other attendants!
If all else fails, and your soon to be hubby really wants a big bridal party, just pic people you know! This may sound a little nonchalant, but hey, there is no law stating you have to be lifelong soulmate type friends to have them in your wedding! Just pick some people that you wouldn't mind having up there with you! But, as I said, in the next two years, there is plenty of time to pick people and become close with them, try girls you work with, or go to the gym with. Join a book club anything to help you meet new friends! And then, not only will you have found attendants for your wedding, but new friends also! And friends are a great blessing to have around, especially during the first years of marraige, because it's not all that easy! You'll find out how much he snores, and does or doesn't pick up after himself-haha! And you will be glad to have people to talk to and share with!
good luck and congrats! And most of all relax, things will fall into place!
2007-01-27 13:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you guys just skip the wedding party? no one says that you have to have bridesmaids/groomsmen. I know that when I get married I won't for this reason. Its too hard these days not to offend someone. Just have the focus be on the two of you. Maybe his brother(s) can do a reading at the ceremony and speeches at the reception.
2007-01-27 14:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem I have. I have 2 real close friends and he has many. For our wedding it is just going to have to be lopsided. One of my problems was that one of my 2 is male so we asked him to be a groomsman. So currently I think we have a best man 2 gromsman a maid of honor and a bridesmaid and a flower girl (my daughter) It took me a long time to ask my brides maid and we wont know if she or either of the grooms men will be able to be there until it gets closer to the wedding in november. So at least you have some time to think about it. Good luck and the wedding party doesnt have to be even.
2007-01-27 14:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by lilebsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother doesn't have any guy friends and so he had my dad stand up in his wedding. His other groomsmen were the bride's brothers. If your fiancee has any sisters, then they could be your bridesmaids.
A lot can change in a couple of years, so I woudn't worry about it. Besides, if you have some guy friends, you can always have them stand up for you.
If you don't have any close friends at all, you could have your cousins stand up or even your aunts.
2007-01-27 13:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always fall back on the idea of not having any bridesmaid or groomsmen. Just say you want the focus on the two of you and your union together.
2007-01-27 13:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Young One 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any family, cousins, Aunts? Even your Mom could fill the spot. You have some time and you don;t have to have a matching number of bridesmaids to groomsmen so don;t get pressured.
2007-01-27 13:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have bridesmaids if you don't have my close friends or relatives. You could have guys stand for you if you want to. If in two years you still don't have many close friends to stand up with you, but your fiance has a lot and doesn't want to choose between them you could have some of them stand with you. Maybe his brothers could stand next to you, and his friends could stand next to him. Your wedding doesn't have to be traditional, just have fun with the process.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-30 14:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by UhOH! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any female cousins or sisters? Ask them. If not, then you have two years to start making friends.
Break down those walls girl...get out there, and get friendly. Make you some friends!
2007-01-27 13:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by Marianimal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop obsessing. If you won't be married for 2 years, you could meet other friends by then.
2007-01-27 13:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can get a sister, or the longest and most trustworthy friend you have!
2007-01-27 13:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by Gainy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋