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Last week when I went bridesmaid dress shopping with my party, my soon to be Mother-in-Law found a very nice dress that allows you to pick color options. It's a two piece dress and she wanted to get the black skirt with an ivory top (the ivory should practically be white, it's not ivory at all)...my bridesmaids, mother and the dress shop owner all jumped in and said that this would not be appropiate...come to find out she purchased it today! I am fuming! what should I do? Stay quiet or speak up?

2007-01-27 12:46:03 · 23 answers · asked by ellem_x2 1 in Family & Relationships Weddings

23 answers

Keep quiet. It's not the disaster everyone seems to think. No one will mistake her for the bride, so relax.

2007-01-27 12:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8 0

Since the bottom half is black, I don't think this is a problem. It's not like she's in entirely white and posing as the bride.

The good thing is, since the bottom half is black, it will be easy for her to find a matching dress. I know that it's considered bad luck by some to wear black to a wedding, but black is actually quite classy. That's why everyone should have the "little black dress." It's formal, not mournful, and looks good on practically anyone.

2007-01-27 12:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 1 0

In all the weddings I have gone to I have never seen both mothers wear the same color dress. If I was your mom I would pick another color to wear. I would not focus on what his mother did, as this sounds really childish. Be glad you found out before rather then the day of the wedding. Sounds as if your mother in law is not able to think on her own. In the future you know what to expect. Next time do not give out so much info on what your mom is doing and she will not be able to beat her to the punch. Hope you know that most people will not even pay attention to what the mother's are wearing it's all about the bride.

2016-05-24 07:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I have been to a lot of weddings and quite frankly I have never paid to much attention to what the mother or mother-in-law to be wore. I think only the "holy-er then thou" type people would pick on that and who needs them anyhow. Hey, as long as she doesn't come in Levi's your going to be OK. It tells me she can not be intimidated by other people, I think that's a good trait. If your fuming over something so trivial, I feel sorry for your soon to be mother-in-law.

2007-01-27 15:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

If you feel this is something that will still be bothering you in 5 years, then speak up! You don't want to harbor anger and then have it come up later on! Maybe, if you don't feel your relationship with her is strong enough for you to say something, you could speak with another family member, say her sister or even your fiance, her son, and have them talk to her! And noone will mistake her for the bride, but it DOESN:T change the fact that she had the nerve to want to wear it! My mother in law picked out a cream colored dress and I spoke to her sister and explained how upset I was and she handled it from there! She stepped up and told her she didn't feel it was appropriate, which it wasn't! And offered to help her go look for another one! It all worked out fine after that! You just need to decide how much this is going to bother you!
My sister would have been fine and not let it botherher, but I am the type of person that it would bother relentlessly for years to come! Which type of person are you? Then you have your answer!
Good luck and again I say, don't ignore this if you won't be able to get over it. It will only get worse over time! It's kind of like a scab that starts off small, but as things happen you pick at it and it just continues to get worse until you can't bear it anymore! Don't let it do that to you! There are too many years to come of seeing this woman!
Good luck and congrats on your upcoming day!

2007-01-27 13:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by jen 4 · 1 2

Honestly I'd stay quiet because if she's wearing the black skirt with it, then it will be a lot different than yours. Just my opinion, but if its a major issue and bugs u big time, then call her on it. I'm getting married in August and I read a book that said when u stress over something a good way to put it in perspective is to think ahead and see if u think it will ruin your wedding? Good luck

2007-01-27 13:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Krissy 4 · 4 0

I don't see why her dress would be inappropriate. As long as it is not more formal than your mother's dress, and it coordinated with the bridesmaids dresses, this set should be fine. White is only a no-no if the dress could appear to be a wedding dress. I don't think that is the case here.

2007-01-27 13:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 3 0

Well, you've learned that she will do whatever she wants, regardless of the opinions of others. You will see this carry through in other aspects of her life.
As long as your fiance can handle the big stuff with her, don't worry about it.
My MIL tends to butt her nose in alot, but my hubby takes care of it and I don't have to worry about her at all. I love her dearly, but I also know this is one of her traits.
The dress for the wedding is not that big of a deal (it won't take away any attention from you and the other guests will probably wonder why SHE made that decision). There are other situations where this trait could be a big deal. Are you and your fiance ready for that?
Have a heart to heart talk with him and air some of this out.

I hope you have a wonderful wedding day, beautiful marriage-- and can work all this out.

2007-01-27 13:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0 2

i don't see what the big deal is personally I think that you and your bridesmaids need to grow up alittle who cares if she has ivory under her Black suit it's not like she has an ivory gown on come on.

2007-01-30 06:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0 0

I do not see why everyone is getting their panties in a wad. its not like she bought a wedding dress. She bought a black skirt with an ivory top.

Everyone needs to get over it.

2007-01-28 08:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0 0

don't say anything. she may be looking for a 'rise' out of you so don't give her the satisfaction. and if you thwart her on this she may go to greater lengths doing something else. so let it go!
personally i don't think its a big problem....but if its noticed, it'll be her looking foolish not you!
all eyes will be on the bride and groom, and honestly i doubt anyone is going to notice an old woman in a ivory blouse!
good luck!

2007-01-29 22:23:53 · answer #11 · answered by tess 4 · 0 0

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