I think I love my girlfriend. I talk to her for hours on the phone and would talk forever if my phone bills allowed it. I endure shopping that no man should have to endure, but I enjoy shopping and just being with her. We have been going out for almost a month now and I don't want to rush into things, but we both enjoy being erotic with each other.
I am senior in high school and so is she and we've known each other since we were kids.
When is the time "right" to have sex?
2007-01-27 12:38:24 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The right time is when you both agree on it, and while it's a difficult subject to "talk" about or ask permission to do so, it could even happen naturally as to one romantic night, or just out of the blue. It could take a short while in a relationship, as it could take months, years, or it might never happen. As a man, if you really love her, it will happen whenever she chooses to, more than as to whenever you choose to.
Just always remember to protect yourself, and do things right. While sex is sometimes referred to as a "natural instinct and pleasure" it's also a burden of responsibilities that go along with it. Play it safe always.
2007-01-27 12:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by cucajoe 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being together a month is not long enough. You are just starting to know each other as a couple. I usually tell the teens and young college agers that I talk to about AIDS prevention that if you are not open with your significant other to talk about sex and birth control, then you should not be having sex yet. Communication is key in any relationship, and especially so in a relationship at that level of seriousness.
I hope you have had a good health class, in the meanwhile, here is a good, informative website that has all sorts of information! Remember not to be so goal oriented about getting her in bed, slow down and enjoy the journey to that point,IF you all ever get there at all!
http://www.talksexwithsue.com/index2.html
Blessings- dd
2007-01-27 12:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by dedum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is would be better to wait until you know for sure, like you are going to get married for sure. Many times people get into relationships and rush into sex and then it doesn't work out and they regret it. Even though you may think a month is a long time, it is actually not. My boyfriend and I have decided to wait until we walk down the isle before we do that. We don't know if we will walk down the isle with each other as we just started dating, although we have been friends for almost 2 years now. It is much better to wait and get to know each other far more than just being erotic. Get to know each others wants, desires, dreams for the future, etc. If you have sex and you accidentally get pregnant and it doesn't work out, would you get married? You have to think of these things. Even with all the protection, accidents happen. What if? You have to be adult enough to have those conversations out of the bedroom and see what each of you would want in certain situations. If you both are ready and want the same things, then go for it. Just things out before you rush into things when your emotions and hormones are in full blossom.
2007-01-27 12:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you were older I would say "when it feels right". But, because you are still pretty green, I'm going to suggest you talk to a trusted older friend/family member. Maybe a cousin or older sibling, and get their take on the situation. Ideally you could talk with a parent, but I know that's not always feasible.
The important thing to keep in mind is that sex changes things...no matter how much you think it won't. And, no matter how careful you are there is always the risk of pregnancy and sometimes of disease. Be safe and be careful of each other's feelings and things will work out fine. :-)
2007-01-27 12:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Erika B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should bring up the subject of sex and talk about it with her. If you two love each other, then open communication is a must.
Hey, if she does want to wait till marriage ... there nothing wrong with "outercourses". Basically outercourses is sex without penetration ... do you know what I mean? This way, you can become familiar with her body. My goodness, if you two learn each others bodies now, just imagine the passion you both will share IF you two get married :D
Goodluck to you, I hoped this helps you ... you sound like a very sweet guy.
2007-01-27 12:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by rosie768 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From where I come from, there is the unwritten policy of three months, which says that you should be at least three months in a relationship before having sex. That, of course, is not a rule.
The fact that you two are having erotic moments is really good and important, because, when it comes to having sex you'll feel less nervous and you'll already know a couple of things she likes. Thumbs up!
2007-01-27 12:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time to have sex is when both parties are ready for it. You both have to decide this. It may be know but then again it may not. Talk to your girlfriend. And for those who say it is only right after you are married "What a load of cr*p" Why wouldn't you try before you buy.
2007-01-27 12:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I didn't have sex until a month before my 19th my birthday. I was in a serious long term relationship and it just seemed right.
As for the right time, I can't really say...
think about the dangers of it, pregnancy, stds, breaking up, virginity is something you can't get back and that's likely not a big deal to you but to girls it is.
If I ever broke up with my boyfriend I'd hate that I gave it to him because I just can't get it back....
As for you- a month. get real. if you even talked about sex with her, I hope her dad comes after you with a shotgun!
That is so disrespectful. Why don't you just give her a card saying "so I want to prove you're easy, lets do it like animals"
you're a disgrace to good guys out there.
2007-01-27 12:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
when the time's right. you really dont have to wait long, i mean since you guys are really in love and known eachother for a WHILE...i think you guys should do it when the moment comes. when you BOTH feel like going deeper than kissing and giving favors, and when she really wants it...but protective sex of course...i dont think you should have to wait so long, take a chance..you guys love eachother. I'm a senior too and i had sex with my boyfriend and only him in 10th grade, and i don't regret it, we're still together.
2007-01-27 12:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you both are in agreement and are mature enough to practice safe sex. And when you are both willing to take responsiblity for the consequences of making the decision to have sex. Unplanned pregnancy for one.
2007-01-27 12:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋