My boyfriend and I have been happily together for about 4 1/2 months now. Recently he started talking about marriage and children and practically proposed. I just laughed it off, thinking it was just a spur of the moment thing, but now that I look back, he seemed completely serious. I trust him with my heart and soul, and am completely faithful to him, as I believe he is to me, but I'm a bit nervous about actually doing this so early in any relationship. Part of this probably stems from the fact that he takes his faith very seriously, one of which ideals is to NOT HAVE SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE. Should I be watching out for him to do this to me?
This question might seem a little odd until you consider the fact that I'm just 15 years old. He's my first serious relationship and I'm getting the impression I'm getting a bit over my head in this. One option I really don't want to consider is dumping him or cheating on him. I hope I can figure this problem out... Thanks
2007-01-27
12:35:06
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Melissa M
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My boyfriend is also 15, only about one month younger than me. While a few of you have good points, a lot of the opinions I disagree with. Most of the people who responded to this question view me as a person unable to make my own decisions, saying I'm in way over my head (which, admittedly, I am), but it doesn't concern me as much as it does to those who replied. The one thing I am sure of is that the happiest life I can envision for myself is to actually marry him, not in the recent future, but after high school, if we make it that far, and that it would be the best to spend my life with him.
Lots of you are assuming that if we agree to get married, we're going to get married now. Which we're not. While I know that we're both financially and educationally unable to get married, we can still agree to be faithful to one another and look forward to the prospect of PLANNING to get married.
I realize now I could have made this decision myself. Thanks anyways.
2007-01-27
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how can you eve consider to cheat on him, DON"T YOU DARE! He is obviosuly a sweet guy and is probably experiencing his first love feelings thinking that they wont happen again....... Same with you.... 4 1/2 months is nothing especially at your age...... and sex at your age is not acceptable either! If you truly belive that you could be marring this guy then do it after your graduate from highschool. Your relationship will prove if you two are meant for each other by that time. You need to get to know each other better...... there are so many things that you need to know about a person before gettign married to them....... and right now you really shouldn't be worring about that because your only 15 and it's illegal for you to marry this soon ! so just chil finish highschool then consider marriage....... BUT DO NOT CHEAT... if you don't want this guy , justtell him that you see no future in that relationship . But donot cheat...
2007-01-27 12:43:52
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answered by Anonymous
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One thing you left out was the age of your boyfriend. I'm also 15 and I believe you should really look into what ya man is saying. he seems very serious about marriage, kids, etc. but are you? you have your whole life to live and should not be thinking about marriage let alone children!! You should really have a sit down wit him and let him know how you really feel.
2007-01-27 12:46:49
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answered by ms.chic 2
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One thing is for sure is that you both need to finsh school before you start to even think that way,,, so just keep on being boyfriend an girl friend an If he likes you as much as he says then he will respect you,,an wait for the sex part....good luck.....you can e-mail me an maybe I can help you some more....bye
2007-01-27 12:45:37
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answered by manny4era@yahoo.com 2
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well. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 11 months and were making a year soon. Were only 16, but we do talk about marige. If you can trust him, and you feel confident about it, then you guys should talk about it. And also talk abut sex. I gived my girlfriend all the time in the world to get comfterbal about sex. I wasnt forcing anything on her, if he could wait till your older, then he could be the right guy!
2007-01-27 12:42:12
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answered by Anonymous
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Honestly you are getting in over your head...you're still young & 4 1/2 months isn't such a long time to be with someone. Just take it slow. If it's meant to be, it will be...wait till you're older though.
2007-01-27 12:42:42
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answered by itsjustchris1968 2
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15!!!!Honey, go back to your playpen and play with dolls. You are way too young for a boyfriend right now, much less marriage and especially sex. You will wind up raped, trust me cause it happened to me at 11 and we were to
2007-01-27 13:06:00
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answered by chris a 2
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you need to dump this fool. at 15, you have a lot of living and learning to do before you are ready to get married. at minimum,finish high school, better yet, finish college, then get married.
2007-01-27 12:42:23
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answered by Anonymous
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You should talk this over with your pastor or minister. If he's so religious, I'm sure he'll be willing to do that. And you should talk to your dad about this.
2007-01-27 12:40:51
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answered by Violet Pearl 7
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you're fifteen? hmmm...well, definately fon't have sex with him. as for getting married....<< >> uh, no.
2007-01-27 12:41:32
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answered by Yalime Alokin 1
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Wait...how old is your boyfriend???
2007-01-27 12:40:36
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answered by Princess 1
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