how can i be more outgoing? (to make friends with guys) its hard b/c i'm shy...?

Answer 1

Begin by drinking more.

Have one really really big bender to help you set the standard. This night should begin with drinking some girly cruiser type drinks (Please note this applies for shy males and females) and slowly work your way up through wine, beer, and then onto the hard liquor, finishing with something like absynth.

Typically as you are passing through the pilsner areas of the beer intake you should really be losing most of your inhibitions (shyness for the rookies). You should be drunk enough that you find when you speak you want the whole bar to hear. This is a good start, keep drinking and get a video camera ready (you'll need it since you won't be able to remember anything after this point in your evening)

Good work, now you're the life of the party. But to be sure you should move onto the bottom shelf liquors, start with a gentle white spirit like Gin or vodka, smash some of those down, then nude up in the bar.

It's important to be as outrageous as possible at this point in time. Be naked, be loud, do stupid things like trying to punch the bar staff and kiss the bouncers while riding a bar stool in the nude and having it all taped at the same time. From this point on you need to keep on drinking and make your behaviour worse and worse.

Congratulations, you're nearly there. Now that you've woken up in your front yard, and you don't know how you got there, it's time to give yourself 3 days for the hangover to pass, and then sit down and watch your mad drunken video.

Now that you've seen that you can be confident forever because you now understand that if you can do what's on that video you can do anything!

Answer 2

hey, its okay to be shy. but, being too shy is not good. many guys like shy girls. i used to be in your position when i was in high school and now looking back on the past i regret being tooooo shy. I guess also i was insecure about myself that's why i never had too many guy friends. what you need to do is open yourself up. love youself. you cannot accept and love others unless you love yourself first. First, you need to have a high-self esteem. dont worry what others will think of you. maybe when you are in a outing with a bunch of friends..speak out, tell jokes, try to be funny. maybe show them some of your talents hidden in you. you need to break out of your shell. it will take time. maybe your friends could also help you. The opposite sex (guys) also feel shy making friends with girls as well. You just need to build self-confidence in order to talk to guys and be comfortable around them.

Answer 3

One way to meet guys is to take an interest in sports. You can go to a softball game or a football game. Go to the library and read up on them a little, or if you go to a game you can ask a guy who's there a question about a rule or play. I watched football and basketball with my dad as a kid and now my husband and I have one more thing in common!

Answer 4

Ask the guy questions about him and take the focus off of yourself. If he asks you a question about you keep the answer short and turn the focus back to him. Everybody loves to talk about theirself so just keep the focus on the other person and encourage him to talk about himself and pretend to be interested with statements like, "Wow, really? What happened next? Tell me more, Are you serious, etc." Nod your head in agreement with what he is saying, lean in to hear better, look him in the eye or the middle of his forehead if you cannot look him in the eye and just listen and listen. All you have to do is ask questions and listen. Ask him anything about himself. It is his favorite topic.

Answer 5

We all go through these problems. As you get older you find that it is not so hard at all. Just be yourself and don't worry about what people think about you because I am also like that. When I don't know people very well I just keep my mouth shut and they think I am stuck up but when I just go around and act like my goofy self they like me.

Answer 6

in general you don't. but it really depends on whay kind of shy you are. if your introverted, you'll have to fake it. big groups creep me out. otherwise you'll have to talk to people.

and in talking to people you'll have to learn to be more superficial and say things you don't really mean to save face. you'll have to talk about sensless topics about weather, sales, shoes, clothes, and nonsense like that.

and of course you'll have to seem interested in what the other person is saying. and that's pretty much all there is too it.

and while i know the secrets, i have to be me, and i don't care about any of that stuff. in the end you will have keep faking it.

Answer 7

I have that problem to. I think it roots in self confidence. You have to love yourself and dnt worry if they will like you or not. Just see if they do and if they dont, know there are guys out there that would like you and like you for who you are, because there is no use in pretending. It's not worth it to how someonelike you if it is not really you.

Answer 8

I'm kinda that way too. but when i'm with my friend I'm really the opposite.
what i did was (it sounds really lame but it helps) pratice little conv. in front of the mirror. write down some stuff to say when you come to a weird pause.

good luck!!>>!!<

Answer 9

try to break being shy , cause it doesn't work these days , in this rude world we live in

Answer 10

if you are a girl then you can call me.
I too am a bit shy to start.