You can tell him you aren't comfortable with the idea, but you can't outright forbid him. If they want to see each other, there is nothing you can do to stop them. I understand how strange this must feel to you, but you should credit your brother with discussing this with you before he just brought her over as his date. If it really bothers you, you can ask that she not sleep over. It IS your house, and you are entitled to make the decisions about who sleeps there. Doing so will probably create a bad vibe between you and your brother, though. It will also make it look as though you still want to be with your ex. She will feel that you are sabotaging her relationship and it may ruin the friendship you have with her. I think you should discuss how you feel about this with each of them, one-on-one, without the other being around. Make it clear that you aren't angry or jealous, that you won't try to stop them, but that you are uncomfortable. They should understand and will probably try not to display a lot of affection around you. The key is to ask them to respect your feelings, not to demand anything.
2007-01-27 12:52:48
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answered by roknrolr63 4
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I hate to say this but if your ex told you that you're too jealous and clingy then he must know what he's saying.
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Anyone that goes out clubbing just to see what their ex is doing or drive by his place at 7:00 a.m. to see who's there tell me that you need to work on something. I don't think that you are only jealous but also possessive. And if you don't change that then you will never get your ex back. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to mean to you. I only want you to see what you are doing is so wrong. You have to admit that you are jealous and clingy. If you can't admit that then you'll never be able to fix the problem.
I understand that you don't like it if he dances and flirts in front of you. But guys are guys. And many guys don't see anything wrong with this. I know you feel hurt if he does that in front of your face. And it is disrespectful. But there are ways you can talk to your boyfriend if he's flirting while he's with you. You only have to tell him that it hurts you and that it's disrespectful and then ask him to stop doing it when he’s with you.
I don't know if getting back with your ex is going to last because now you have two problems. You were having problems with him because of his flirting and now you will have another problem because of this girl that he's going out with. It is eating you alive that he's involved with this girl and you know he's probably sleeping with her. How are you going to handle that if you get back together? Because of your jealousy and your insecurities are you going to be able to forget that he was ever involved with this girl? You really need to work on this and make sure if you try to get him back that you never again mention about his flirting or this girl. You can mention one more time how his flirting affects you but it has to stop there.
You asked how do you compete with the girl he's involved with. I looked at the picture and I can tell that your ex knows how to go for beautiful girls. So that give me a clear picture about how you look. I have a feeling that you are also very beautiful but for some reason I don't think you see yourself that way. The only thing I can tell you is that your boyfriend did not leave you because he didn't love you. He left you because of your jealousy and because you were clinging to him. If you love his as much as you say you do then fight for him and get him back. And if you do get him back then make sure that you can promise him that you will no longer be jealous, clingy or insecure about your relationship with him. If you can't promise him that then you may as well forget about him because it won't work if you don't change,
2016-07-19 15:51:30
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answered by Anonymous
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it will impact your daughter quite undesirable if she has to witness any of you arguing about it or in case you tutor signs and indicators of being jealous. Your brother and ex spouse look like they're disrespecting you and brushing aside your thoughts. yet, they're their personal people and also you should't extremely do some thing about what they're feeling for the different now. So, I say grit your tooth and fake each and everything is peachy... a minimum of once you're in the front of your daughter.
2016-10-16 04:55:13
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answered by ? 4
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Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/Qlwgj
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-05-01 02:28:12
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answered by deborah 3
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He was obligated to ask, just as you are obligated to say yes. He didn't have to ask in the first place, he was just being considerate. Be honest, there is nothing you could do to stop it anyway. They are going to date regardless of what you say. Saying "no" would just cause bad feelings between all three of you.
2007-01-27 12:37:15
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answered by Deus Luminarium 5
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Tell him if he is going to have sex with her go somewhere else if it bothers you. If you didn't have that spark it shouldn't bother you if they go out though.
I was going with this guy once and my sister asked after I quit seeing him if she could date him and I said go for it after all I didn't want him anymore and they ended up getting married and now he is my brother in law. LOL
2007-01-27 12:35:26
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answered by Gale 2
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U dont have to accept it, but ya know theres no stopping him or her!
Im sorry to say!
But maybe you can tell her how it hurts and its not okay for her to leave u for ur brother! or you can just let it go!!!!!!
But if its ur place then u dont have to accept it!
2007-01-27 12:35:27
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answered by Fire_hot99 1
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yes it okay to tell him how you feel. tell him you would feel bad about it this is your home and since you shared the same bed you think it best to not do or he can move out and not put you in such a place to begin with.
2007-01-27 12:35:00
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answered by crystal b 2
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yes to dating, especially since there was no spark....they should go to her place for sex. If you really can't handle it, then you had better speak now or forever hold your peace.. and any snide comments about her... sounds like she's your bro's girl now!
btw, why sex with her if there's no spark? you make yourself look not so good!- dd
2007-01-27 12:34:47
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answered by dedum 6
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I have to agree with you it is an uncomfortable situation but say nothing because it wont last anyway. Blood is thicker than water Ive heard.
2007-01-27 12:38:59
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answered by ncgirl 6
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