Ok, this is how it is I have two grown daughters who have 3 children of there own. Now my son who is 17 has gotten his girlfriend pregnant both young toooooo young. I am going crazy nuts about this.. I am a grandma 6x over. I feel my son is making a mistake with this one. I think he/she should give baby up for adoption. I have done my best with my kids and still have a 7 year daughter. This is just heartbreaking, knowing my son knew well enough and should have been careful. My daughter, who is 23, she is in another relationship, so to speak, and well my thought was oh no baby number 4 coming along. That's how I feel.
2007-01-27 12:16:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
As a teenage mom myself I feel like maybe your selling your son short. First of all there is nothing that you can do to make his girlfriend give the baby up. I got pregnant at 17 was still in High School my parent's turned there back on me and kicked me out of their house. I had my daughter at 18 and still managed to graduate high school. I didn't talk to my parents till my daughter was almost 9 month old. They missed out on all those special time's. Believe me I'm sure that if they could go back and do things over they would have supported me in my decision to keep my daughter. Just be their for your son and have faith that you've raise him well enough that he'll take care of his child. And one of the best thing's that you can do is NOT bail him and his girlfriend out every time they get in a hard spot. They have to learn to make it on their own. Just be careful and don't put to much pressure on them to do what you want them to do. Just pray that they will make the right decision. Good luck and I hope every thing works out for you and your kids.
2007-01-27 12:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can understsand that you feel that way but I don't think adoption is the right path to take. I think you or your son might regret it in the future. My mom was 18 when she had me and we grew up to be so close and able to relate to issues easier because she understood better what I was going through. It might help your son grow up and teach him responsibility. You might push your son away if you force the adoption idea on him. Let him make the decision and just educate him on how hard it really is! Just show him your love and suppport and I'm sure that grandchild will be a special piece of all of your lives. Best of luck!!!
2007-01-27 15:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is not how you wanted things to work out. Your kids need your support more than ever. Yes, your son and his girlfriend are young....the very reason they need your support. I an ideal world we would all make the right decisions. We all have not made the best decisions at one time or another. I will never understand how anyone could turn the back on their child. I'm not insinuating you would do this at all. I have just seen it done though. Support your kids and help them however you can. They only have one mom and I'm sure they want you around.....Just one humble opinion..
2007-01-27 14:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen the Lifetime movie, Too Young To Be Dad? you should. Its a great movie. I dont know if adoption is the best answer... you need to be there for your son and his girlfriend and don't put them down or think less of them for what has happened. They don't need to be punished but instead loved just the same. I think you should support you son and any decision they make, stand right behind them.
2007-01-27 12:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's tough. You have to love and support them. It's not your fault if your kids got pregnant young, I just want you to know that. Let them know that you still love them and they can come to you if they have issues like this (I'd hate for them to feel like the couldn't tell you)...but also let them know they have options such as adoption, if that's how you feel. Good luck. I'm kinda on the other end of this situation, so I hate to think that my mom feels this way about me. But I wasn't being irresponsible, I was on The Pill and it didn't work. So I'm sure your kids will appreciate your support and love in this difficult time, but don't be afraid to speak up, and let your youngest daughter know how hard it is for you and her older brothers and sisters so maybe she will think 43786665 times before getting herself in a similaar situation.
2007-01-27 12:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by grayhare 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it's your son's and the girl he got pregnant's decision. Don't talk him into something he doesn't want to do. Why wouldn't you want to be a grandma to this one? do you want to give the others up for adoption too? Think about that. Could you live without your other grandchildren? Children are a gift. And that's how I feel.
2007-01-27 12:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by wendylotr 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 04:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as heartbreaking as it is..like you said you have done the best you can..there are times when we have to let our children learn from their mistakes..and in this case its one to learn from for many years to come...im a mom of 6.ages from 24 to 7..and it breaks my heart to see my children make mistakes knowing ive done more to teach them different..hang in there...he will learn
2007-01-27 13:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by oh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really can't do anything about them having kids. all you can do is be there for them and hope they make good decisons. you can perpare your 7 year old for the future though. whats done is done with your son. i wouldn't push adoption, if they do it they may resent you later. just be there. it's their life. they'll be ok.
2007-01-27 12:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by looiebeme 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well, this is your son's kid its really his decision. if u want to be on good terms with him then let him make his own decision. u may be right, but once your kids are older u got to let them make their own mistakes and deal with them. good luck
2007-01-27 13:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋