I have as most people say a high sex drive. I recently started dating this guy i have liked for 6 years. He is a great guy, but at the same time, not in bed. It's like he only know two positions. We haven't even tried others becuase he doesn't "last long enough". I know what i like but he is totally opposit of me. I know i should talk to him about it but...Guy's what would you say to this if your girlfiend mentioned something like this to you. I am loosing intrest in him because of this situation. what should i do? How do i tell him?
2007-01-27 12:07:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
teach him
2007-01-27 12:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by G-diddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are sexual beings. While sex is not the most important part of a relationship, it still is an important part. Let's face it. Men and women seek each other out for sex partners. If this guy didn't turn you on somehow, chances are you probally wouldn't be with him.
Now, you have to ask yourself...Is the rest worth saving? If he's other wise someone you can see yourself being with, then working on a better sex life would be worth a try. If he's not, the sooner you move on, the better.
It sounds like he doesn't have much experience and may have been raised with disfuntional sex values. Talk to him. There are many self help books out there that could help the two of you to work together on his staying power and knowlege of sex.
If the problem isn't shyness, or lack of knowlege, you might want to try Viagra. It increases staying power and taking half a tablet for awhile might give him the confidence he needs to last longer.
One other thing to consider. Some guys need a lot of foreplay to have staying power durring "the act". Many women belive the sooner they start that part, the longer the man will last for it. Sadly this is a myth. Rushing in to that makes a minute man out of a lot of men.
If you talk to him gently about working on improving this side of your relationship, without insulting his manhood, he'll probally be willing to work on it with you. Since you haven't told him, he probally thinks you're ok with the way things are.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-01-27 12:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bad relationship is far worse, something that you have to get away from as soon as possible. Bad sex can be remedied by education/communication if the relationship is good in other ways.
2016-05-24 07:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a good book called The Joy of Sex that might offer you and your boyfriend some more options. You need to talk about the situation and try to find out what can be done to help improve things.
2007-01-27 12:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a very important part of a relationship.
You need to tell him how you feel if you don't want to loose him.
How about suggesting watching some porn?
This may give him some ideas on alternate positions and potentially keep him aroused for longer.
Good luck.x
2007-01-27 12:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Éan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is a virgin and you been layed around a lot. Possible he's going to loose interest in you when he realizes what he got himself into. Maybe if your sex drive is so high you oughto get a job that will satisfy.
2007-01-27 12:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad chemistry bad relationship. but bad sex not necessarily bad relationship. you may be confusing him with the way you act out of the sex stage. try to figure this out first. try to seduce him the right way during sex. maybe you're too bossy out of bed and you want to change to be the lame kitten in bed.
2007-01-27 12:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by Clara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
id say first of all that you never really loved me,
that aside sex is for married couples.
and premature ejaculation is caused by anxiety and can be treated with your assistance
2007-01-27 12:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by uncrowned ruler 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
viagra
2007-01-27 12:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋