I have a six year old son. I am just wondering if he is EVER going to let me take a shower or use the bathroom in peace? He won't come in my room ... or call my name.. and I'll think he's watching TV or playing his video game.. so I try to get a quick shower in or try to handle "bathroom business"... and it's like he has radar... So to all of the veteran parents... I am just wonering... if EVENTUALLY... he will let me have the 5 minutes I try to steal every now and then?.....
Thanks
2007-01-27 11:52:56 · 13 answers · asked by WhoDidThat??? 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not being a "mommy," I don't recall having to deal with the bathroom door issue myself. Maybe because daddies make more noise when they go? :P No, I know it's because kids at that age have more attachment issues with mom than with dad.
However, I can offer one possibly useful bit of advice: kids go through phases, and each child seems to have his or her own particular kinds. Every single worrisome behavior pattern we've seen in our three eventually went away. So, no matter what strange or annoying habit your son develops over time, you can just keep reminding yourself, "This too shall pass." :)
2007-01-27 12:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should firmly tell him that everyone is entitled to their privacy, and make it very clear that when you are showering or have asked not to be disturbed, he had better leave you in peace! It's not at all unkind or too-strict to make this clear to him. You absolutely do have the right to shower in peace and you certainly have the right to use the bathroom in comparative privacy. Be firm and make it quite clear that now he's older, he doesn't need you every second of the day and that if he can't let you be every now and then, you will deny him a few privileges so he understands you are serious. My three year old has learnt that I prefer to restore my personal comfort without an audience, so a six year old is definitely old enough.
2007-01-27 14:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he will.
Get him busy watching T.V or playing a game in your room. (you can later move him to a different room when he is used to you having mommy time) Set a timer for 30 minutes (or however much time you need) and tell him that you will be in the washroom until the timer rings. Close the door and take your shower. (don't be surprised if he sits by the washroom door) He may talk to you through the door, just ignore him. When you come out of the washroom, tell him you heard him talking, but you were having mommy time and ask him if he would like to tell you now that you are out of the bathroom.
I have 3 boys. All 3 went through this. It may take a few tries, but he will get it. promise.
Good Luck.
2007-01-27 12:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by housefullofboys3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a three year old, and he knows that if a door is closed, he must knock first. I started with not letting him come in while I was on the toilet, and now he will leave me alone while I shower. Do you respect his boundaries when he is in the bathroom? Do you knock before entering his room?
Start with the knocking rule, but be sure EVERYONE in the house follows it. If that doesn't work, why not lock the door?
2007-01-27 11:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by CountryMama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you'll eventually get some peace. I have two six year olds and I know what you're going through. Yes, you can close the door, tell him you need your space, etc., but I think the most important adjustment is on your part. Remember that 10 years from now, he won't do this. 10 years from now, he'll want to be with his friends all the time. You'll wish he wanted to be with you more....yes this too shall pass.
2007-01-27 13:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Liza 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you shut the door? This may sound like an absurd question but the reason i ask is this.If i go to the bathroom and leave the door cracked my kids generally do not bother me.But the very second I shut the door it seems like something in their little heads tells them"oooh the door is shut she must be doing something fun in there lets go see!" as to weather or not they out grow it I am sure{ I hope} they do I just can't tell you when as my boys are 6 and almost 3.
2007-01-27 12:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a word...No, but you can try talking to him and letting him know that he is not to bother you when you are in the bathroom. Make it a rule and give him consequences if he does not follow it.
2007-01-27 11:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by karina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, I have the same problem, and my kids are the same age. My buddy has the same problem and his kids range from older teen to 7 and he barely gets five minutes. Soooo if you find out let me know too!
2007-01-27 12:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by shaman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
six? and still trying to come into the bathroom? good lord. Tell him that mommy needs her space, and lock the door.
2007-01-27 12:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hope so, for both of our sakes. I have a six year old son too, so I feel your pain.
2007-01-27 11:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by sunny_day_grl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋