I really need some help i have tryed to help her but every thing i and my daughter does it doesnt work
shes very rude with her mouth with every one she screams instead of talking to any one she always replys with NO NO every thing shes told to do PLEASE HELP i need caring answers if your answers are far out there dont bother THANK YOU
2007-01-27 11:50:08 · 11 answers · asked by darlene l 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you may have tried this, but take away things. if she has a favorite barbie doll, take it away for 15 minutes. if she does it again, take it for 20 and keep on adding.
or you can also try the time out.
and i know this sounds cruel, but my mom used to threaten to beat me and my cousins up with a paddle she made. we were so afraid of it, but you know she never hit us.
hope i helped!
2007-01-27 11:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by oh dang, oh dang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that taking away their favorite thing for a day usually does the trick. But, I also reward my children for good behavior too. Not all kids respond to negative reinforcment. Some only respond to positive reinforcment. But, either way, you have to be consistant with the dicipline. And mean it. Don't give in. I know it's hard and I feel bad when I take away by son's playstation, but, you know what, he won't be doing what I didn't approve of anymore. He knows that I mean business. Now this all depends on your grandchild's age too. If she's a toddler throwing temper tantrums, then ignore the tantrum. If you don't react to the tantrum then the child will realize that her throwing a fit will not help her in getting her way. If your grandaughter is a teenager, then, I can't help you there. I'm dealing with my own spawn of satan at the moment. LOL....
2007-01-27 21:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old your grand daughter is, but if she is a teen don't talk to her for awhile and when she ask why your not talking to her tell her "that unless she stops screaming and is always so negative your not going to encourage it." Sometimes and I have seen my sister do this. That is make the situation worse by arguing with her daughters. When I was growing up we were not allowed to argue with our parents. Something was taking away if we did and if we got to bad we got a spanking. I know most do not want to spank their children, but when all else fails sometimes it is the only answer. I think that is what is wrong with kids today they do not think there is any punishment attached to their behavior.
I hope this helps Take care and God Bless
2007-01-27 20:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Gale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try punishing her more servirely srry if thats smelled wrong, but u prob get that alot and i relize that it is easier to say then do. And if she wants to take it further take it further take everything away maybe put her in a room switch the locks (reverse them) so that the lock is on the outside put her in the room where there is nothing she can break put her in there as a punish ment and make her stay in the for like 5 minutes.She will relize hopefully that you will not take her behaver anymore and take some of her stuff away dont give her what see wants until she behaves.As she gets better behaver she will get stuff back.GOOD â LUCK:)
ps do not ever hit her or beat her it will only make things WORSE DONT DO IT IT WILL MAKE HER MORE MAD THE MORE PEACEFUL U R THE BETTER
2007-01-27 19:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanieee(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any kind of attention paid during a tantrum is not helping. Calmly tell her you will not talk to her until she stops acting the way she is. It works with my 3yr old. You have to mean what you say. Making false threats won't help. Good luck. I always make sure to discuss what happened after he is calm again. I say mommy loves you, but I need you to be a good boy and not ....... anymore. Gotta stick to your guns. Be the boss, but remember to show love and affection after the fact.
2007-01-27 19:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...how old is your grand daugter? I suggest that you do not reward bad behavior with attention. ( ANY VERBAL ATTENTION). If she is a child simply bring her to a time out chair. Explain the rules first though:
1. when you scream, yell, or say "no" when asked you will go in time out!
2. If you fuss in time out, your time there will be longer. (with my kids, it was 1min for every year of their age. If they fussed...the time out started over at the point that they fussed)
3. Be consistent, and be calm.
4. After time out...sit for a minute and explain why she had a time out. Give an alternative idea for her behavior such as:
"instead of screaming "no", next time you could say "Ok, but can we talk about it for a minute."
OF course if you are dealing with a teenager...
Lay down the rules, and stick to them. Be calm, be assertive. You don't have to explain yourself, OR DEFEND yourself!! It is perfectly ok to say "because I said so!"
I always told my kids "I don't perform for you...I perform for an audience of one...GOD. He will hold me accountable..not you!"
Good Luck...I feel your pain!
2007-01-27 20:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by donnam4863 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be very patient and firm. Try putting her in a corner for 5 mins every time she is rude. Also, her age is important.
2007-01-27 20:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find out what is hurting her so much. Maybe she needs a psychologist to help her.
2007-01-27 19:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your granddaughter? Depending on the age, the answers will be different.
2007-01-27 20:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to know how old she is.
2007-01-27 19:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by Julian A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋